What a weekend...

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What a weekend...
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Mon, 09-20-2010 - 11:48am

Wow. What a weekend. Just got back from a weekend away with my DH, my AP and his DW, and another couple who brought their dog and 2 yr old. I am so surprised we didn't get caught. We got there later on Friday night and AP was there, a drink or two in so he was frisky and his guard was down. It felt like we were with our parents and we sneaking kisses and touches and just didn't want to get caught! Then everyone goes to bed and before I know it he and I are the only ones up. We got in the hot tub (amazing), then came inside and literally were up until probably 4 am going at it like horny teenagers. It was amazing. We both wake up a little later, his DW is on a run and my DH is at the store... and we are both still frisky. Ridiculous!



We then went golfing (me, DH, AP and the other guy)... so much fun. Constantly flirting on the course, AP telling me how much he wants me. I think my DH started to look at us a little differently, but not in a suspicisous way. I think in a jealous way, which makes me feel terrible, but my heart is with my AP, not my DH. We got back, all made dinner, watched football and again, it's just me and AP up, this time until about 3:30. Craziness. Incredible. Blushing thinking about all we did!



We talked about how right it is, how much we love eachother, we even talked about figuring out a plan to be together. I'm not going to let myself believe that too much because the reality is he didn't make a decision, he was in the moment and it was amazing. We need to really talk, which I think we'll try and do this week.



The worst part was time with his DW, who I adore, but just can't be alone with. She has NO idea,

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 1:52pm

I know you acknowledged this, but I wonder if you really realize how dangerous it was and what a chance you took? You say you will never be together, etc., but the way you two are going you'll be caught in no time and will have nothing but each other! That's OK if that's what you want. But I think one of the WORST outcomes of an affair is being with each other because of being tossed out of your home! You know, ending up together because there's "no other choice". REALLY think about whether you want that outcome!

I'm glad you had fun, and I'm glad all went well with no discoveries. But I wouldn't take any more chances that are quite that rash!

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Registered: 08-19-2010
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 2:51pm

Yeah, thats awesome you two had a good time together!. I dont know though if I could do that, so close, so risky, such the chance of D-day, and be around my AP's wife.

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 3:07pm

I'm glad you had a great time & enjoyed yourself. I don't know if I would of been able to do that and get away with it under the same roof as my H. I'm too paranoid and the thought of any of them walking in on us terrifies me. Please be very careful, as it is we are taking risks in our marriage but please don't get so carried away where you will be reckless. I wouldn't want a D-day for you and then you both end up together for that reason alone. Trust me I know that exhilarating feeling & sometimes we get carried away.



Best of luck!



 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 03-26-2010
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 5:33pm

Yikes!

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Registered: 03-02-2008
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 7:25pm

I agree with all of your sentiments. It was stupid & reckless... fun... but not smart. I didn't instigate but I didn't say no either. I don't want a D Day, I don't want it to get to that point. This A has had a ridiculous affect on me, I've lost 20 lbs, I don't feel rational anymore, trying to stop didn't work (or hasn't worked so far), therapy has been good but I almost can't go enough.



Don't worry, I won't go there again.

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Registered: 09-05-2010
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 7:55pm

your H must be a fool if he doesn't know about the affair at this point after you and ap shared bed under the same roof with your spouses .