update, need advice plz

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Registered: 04-06-2010
update, need advice plz
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Tue, 09-21-2010 - 12:40pm
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Registered: 03-30-2010
Tue, 09-21-2010 - 4:07pm

Hi Lady,



I know you will still be with him but just want to say keep your guard up. Stay on your toes and I wouldn't believe everything he says because who knows if there were other woman he's chatted with and actually met. In affairs we can only go based on there word, we really have no way of knowing. We also don't spend that time with them to question every aspect of there life either. Just be careful & always take care of you.



 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 03-26-2010
Tue, 09-21-2010 - 6:15pm

I don't know what to say except sorry you are hurting.

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Registered: 04-06-2010
Tue, 09-21-2010 - 8:02pm
Yes, the house is in the market and the divorce proceeding had started.. Not a pretty picture but it is best for us to go our separates ways.. For the record I am not divorcing
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Registered: 04-06-2010
Tue, 09-21-2010 - 8:09pm
Thank you for your advice. I will keep my guard up and know that
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Registered: 10-03-2009
Tue, 09-21-2010 - 8:16pm

Hi Lady,



mm here with some thoughts..



Sounds like your AP is Muslim.. not that it matters, but maybe, in the sense of how he views and values women, and how he values you as a WS deep in his mind and heart..



Reading your lines, somehow, I feel that you are letting him make the decisions.. about you.. about your R.. that if he let you go, then all would be better, but as if

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Registered: 04-06-2010
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 8:13pm

Thank you , for your thoughts



Yes, he is Muslim and his view in women is not the same as American men. However I know I should not be making any excuses for him. Maybe because I am in the lowest I have ever been in my life.