A good update Jane, sounds like things are going well with AP. Are you excited to see him? Will you be able to keep your hands off of him? :)Let me just tell you from my recent experience with EAP on his bike that it is not necessarily safer than a car. It was my first time on a bike as well and it was so nice to be so close and hanging on. More experienced bikers just sit back and relax, but I made sure I held on tight, especially since I had an excuse to do so since it was my first time. Just make sure you wear a shirt you can tuck in or it will fly up for everyone to see, unless you don't mind that! That's what EAP told me the day before we planned to go for our ride. I'm hoping for another ride soon...Have fun!
That co-worker of yours - he might very well have sensed your interest, and his "looking past you" is his way of showing he's not interested. Nothing personal, he's probably not interested in anything like that with anyone and knows how to avoid giving mixed messages about that LOL. Sounds like a good guy. :-)
That is sad about your H. There was one night here that I found a chat message on the computer that started out sounding flirty (H was commenting about a "cute" picture, "Oh yeah that's cute!" ) and it didn't make me happy at all. I kept reading and it was his niece sending a picture of her baby!
Have fun on the motorcycle!
Proud to be a
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
...want him to find someone who loves him and treats him well....
how can he find someone who loves him if you dont tell him the truth that you dont love him & he should find someone else ? It seems like your H still wrongly believes you love him .
"The good of being nonsexual friends far outweighs the sex. I swear...reallly...I mean it....ay yi yi."
Are you trying to convince us or yourself?? LOL...
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You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
Hmmm... I'm thinking that ending any sexual contact may be easier said than done...much depends on how it is viewed or what it actually means to each person individually. From a personal standpoint, sexual contact for me is highly emotionally connected. I desire the sexual intimacy with my AP because of the deep feelings I have for him and it only moves me closer to him emotionally...which is why one might want to sustain from sexual contact. Pretty two-fold huh!? So if I wish to try and disconnect myself emotionally, then I should abstain from that physical aspect... Almost sounds like what I should be doing...but like I said, easier said than done when we only desire to be more deeply connected... It then also raises the question of how truly emotional connected is the sexual contact for the AP?
You're welcome for the motorcycle etiquette advice. I forgot to tuck my shirt in on the way back and was scrambling to do so as we were moving. I told him it wouldn't be a big deal, only the people behind us would see, but he pointed out that he had rear views mirrors and would be able to see it all! I should've left it untucked!
Don't beat yourself up about the flirty emails/texts/pics. We're only human and you are attracted to AP and have feelings for him. It will take time for you to get back to just a friendship and maybe every now and then you want to know that you still desire each other...
About the guy at work,I agree with Lexi. I am in the same boat as you with the A vibe. Since starting this EA I have had guys looking at me differently and two hit on me-one a coworker and and another a friend from high school-neither of whom I am interested in, but it is flattering! WE should just enjoy the attention! :)
It all sounds good Jane.
That co-worker of yours - he might very well have sensed your interest, and his "looking past you" is his way of showing he's not interested. Nothing personal, he's probably not interested in anything like that with anyone and knows how to avoid giving mixed messages about that LOL. Sounds like a good guy. :-)
That is sad about your H. There was one night here that I found a chat message on the computer that started out sounding flirty (H was commenting about a "cute" picture, "Oh yeah that's cute!" ) and it didn't make me happy at all. I kept reading and it was his niece sending a picture of her baby!
Have fun on the motorcycle!
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
Proud to be a
You've
how can he find someone who loves him if you dont tell him the truth that you dont love him & he should find someone else ? It seems like your H still wrongly believes you love him .
Edited 9/22/2010 8:06 am ET by my_name_is_k
Well it rained today, so no motorcycle.
Not sure why he'd believe that since I have been telling him that I DON'T love him anymore for probably the past six months.
...He still loves me (God only knows why---I've been a horrible wife the past year )........
Unfortunately some people
"The good of being nonsexual friends far outweighs the sex. I swear...reallly...I mean it....ay yi yi."
Are you trying to convince us or yourself?? LOL...
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
Proud to be a
You've
I'm thinking that ending any sexual contact may be easier said than done...much depends on how it is viewed or what it actually means to each person individually. From a personal standpoint, sexual contact for me is highly emotionally connected. I desire the sexual intimacy with my AP because of the deep feelings I have for him and it only moves me closer to him emotionally...which is why one might want to sustain from sexual contact. Pretty two-fold huh!? So if I wish to try and disconnect myself emotionally, then I should abstain from that physical aspect... Almost sounds like what I should be doing...but like I said, easier said than done when we only desire to be more deeply connected... It then also raises the question of how truly emotional connected is the sexual contact for the AP?
You're welcome for the motorcycle etiquette advice. I forgot to tuck my shirt in on the way back and was scrambling to do so as we were moving. I told him it wouldn't be a big deal, only the people behind us would see, but he pointed out that he had rear views mirrors and would be able to see it all! I should've left it untucked!
Don't beat yourself up about the flirty emails/texts/pics. We're only human and you are attracted to AP and have feelings for him. It will take time for you to get back to just a friendship and maybe every now and then you want to know that you still desire each other...
About the guy at work,I agree with Lexi. I am in the same boat as you with the A vibe. Since starting this EA I have had guys looking at me differently and two hit on me-one a coworker and and another a friend from high school-neither of whom I am interested in, but it is flattering! WE should just enjoy the attention! :)