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Not Sure Where I Am
| Fri, 09-24-2010 - 12:00pm |
I haven't been around much this last week, and although I've been really busy, it's also due to the fact that I'm not really sure I'm in an A anymore.
As you all know, it's been a bit of a roller coaster this last month, with H moving back home, my initial thought that I could let AP go only to find I couldn't, deciding I'd continue with the A and still work on my M.
The thing is, H and I HAVE been working really hard: we've met with our Pastor, and we've both been reading a book called "The 5 Love Languages" and are getting close again.

I don't see the harm in you still posting here. Your not sure exactly where you are but I think you are still in the affair even if its not physical. I admire that you want to work things out with H and give the marriage
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
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I think you belong here, Another. Even if the physical part of your A is over, I'd say you still have somewhat of an EA, and even if that's over, you can post and help people out as long as you'd like to hang around. I think you would give some good advice regarding the possibility of changing relationships in the marriage - you thought your marriage was dead, and it wasn't. There are very few to give that perspective, and sometimes people need to hear it.
I'm glad to hear things are still going well with your H, and I hope it all turns out to be what you hope for!
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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i wish you luck w/ your M. Sounds like you are trying what you are capable of. stopping the physical part of your A is a right step to helping your M work. going "cold turkey" and no contact w/ xAP would be devastating i am sure, so maybe the slow pull back and less contact as time goes on would be best. We're all here!
Thank you so much for posting what you are going through and feeling. I am somewhere at the same place you are. I love my H very much, got into this A and have wished I had the strength to stop. I too care very much about him a sa person and it isn't all about sex (for me anyway). I feel terrible guilt as a Christian but it has not stopped me from wanting to see him.
I hope things work out for you and you find the answers and strength to do what ever it is you feel is right and what you want.
I have been wondering what you've been up to!
Hi Another,
Firstly, I agree w/ Lexi, no reason for you to leave here, and lots to stay!..
All Rs go through phases.. unless you realize that, indeed, your A is getting in the way of you getting to a better place in your M, I don't see why you would need to give up a good friend..
When I met my AP, we were both struggling with our Ms, and even talked about what would happen "afterward".. but over the course of time, we realized that ending our Ms is not an option.. and then, we saw