He was never mine

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He was never mine
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Fri, 09-24-2010 - 4:24pm

I'm starting to understand what it feels like to be a SW with a MM, but I'm a MW with a SM. Let me explain...



I'm more available because I've emotionally

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 6:53pm

When an A ends is it fair to say that is wasn't a real relationship anyway?



My T stopped me once when I was discussing AP and said, "Do you realize that you just said 'Our relationship'?"

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Registered: 09-05-2010
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 7:00pm


" ....I didn't belong to him and he didn't belong to me. Isn't that the truth?..."

Just like you didn't belong to your H although he doesn't know it.

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Registered: 05-17-2003
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 8:02pm
Will you please just SHUT UP?
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Registered: 03-26-2010
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 8:48pm
LOL!
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Registered: 09-05-2010
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 9:32pm

benaska2003 , is there a reason why you always sound so angry ?
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Registered: 05-17-2003
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 10:05pm
Oh shut up
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Registered: 05-17-2003
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 10:07pm

Yeah, got me on a bad night...now it's on to ignore mode.



Hope you're well :0)



benska

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 11:00pm

I think Jane said it perfectly: Yes, an A is a "real" relationship, just without all the benefits of a real relationship.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 05-31-2010
Sat, 09-25-2010 - 2:29am
k, is there a reason you are always here trolling? grow up.
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Registered: 10-03-2009
Sat, 09-25-2010 - 10:34am

Hi Chilli,



I think, in an A, a secret R, so to speak, you belong to one another only in fleeting moments.. yes, there is belonging, but in a very limited sense.. as it should be.. this is an A afterall..



But, that doesn't take away from the strength, value, and meaning of the bond, as long as both APs are sincere and honest to each other..



Just because it is an A, it doesn't mean the bond is worth any less in terms of its value to you and him..



But, that's so hard to grasp and feel because of all the challenges and limitiations of the A.



In a way, an A is not the best R to be in if feeling to belong is a high priority.. again, just the nature of it..



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