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| Sat, 09-25-2010 - 10:27pm |
I saw AP tonight at a local event and it has me thinking about some stuff.
| Sat, 09-25-2010 - 10:27pm |
I saw AP tonight at a local event and it has me thinking about some stuff.
I know what you mean jane,
During one of our evenings, we were talking about stuff....our relationship and how it started, things that have happened, etc.
This is what I read on the "all sides" board all the time Jane. That even when we think everything is hidden and no one is getting hurt, the way we act does have repercussions. Spouses "sense" something even if they don't know what it is and this can cause them to be depressed, upset - and not even know why. Children also sense something and they can act out. They don't feel as "safe" in their home, they know something is up. The spouse/parent is not as engaged in home life anymore, and even when they're there, their family senses that part of them is not there.
I have wondered if my kids and family life would have been a lot different without my A's. But honestly, before them (and I was married for 15 years before I had any) I was chronically depressed I think. I was not fully engaged in my home life then either.
I think my A's have been "self medication".
Hopefully your AP will get it back together at work! I hope he's put together that his A might be responsible for both his wife's emotional state and his work suffering. If he doesn't put it together, he can't learn from it.
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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Isn't that weird how we think that we are the only one affected by it? I guess that is because they never talk about their feelings (your AP and mine).
Lexi-I am gald that an A works for you to help with you depression.
Just thinking is right! So....I've been thinking, and I've realized that I too have used AP to help with my depression. The only problem is though, that he's also a part of it :-( When we are together and having a great time, omg....the feeling of "yeah, this is where I belong" is so strong! But then there's the flip side, and when it's bad...I sink real hard. I have a hard enough time battling those feelings on a daily basis, so when I'm with him and I'm happy, it's just that much harder when it all goes "poof"!
I'm realizing now that since I