not saying i love you back
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not saying i love you back
| Sun, 09-26-2010 - 8:30pm |
Well, this weekend I got to see my AP, and as I posted this week I was going to have a heart to heart talk with him... I told him I love him and he just stood quit. The silent hurt more then words can say.. I ended it .. This was the first time I told him in person that it is over. He just look at me as if I was lying to him. He call me three time yesterday, but I refuse to answer the phone. I hope my silent speak louder then words that this time it is really over...Letting go can be so difficult

((hugs)) I know it hurts but at least by his silence he was honest. Rare in A's (as I have said many times).
To me men are in A's almost always for the sex and when they do the ILY they are almost always playing along (a/k/a lying) to keep us putting out.
Once your AP realizes you're serious about backing away he'll probably come back at you with some sort of sorta-ILY to try to get you in bed again. . . .
BTDT, Jana
Hmmm...I am not sure if most men seek A's just for the sex. I believe that both men and women seek A's for deeper reasons. They are lonely, there is a lack of intimacy and many feel as though the M's are loveless.
Maybe your AP doesn't want to tell you something he is unsure of. Maybe he is afraid of confusing lust with love and doesn't want to hurt you or go there. But, what are his actions? Does he show he cares about you? At the end of the day, words are only words..it is the action that counts.
IMO, you shouldn't have to ask someone if they love you, you should be able to feel that love. See it in his eyes, the way he acts towards you, goes out of his way to see or talk to you.
What are his emails saying to you? What did he write?
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Well in that case, you know. If he loved you he wouldn't make you cry. If he loved you he would open up to you. If it was love, then it wouldn't feel like poison.
Be strong, don't settle. You deserve to be loved in return and be treated like a Queen.
I'm so sorry, lady_still.