Attack of the Monday Squirrels...

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Registered: 04-28-2010
Attack of the Monday Squirrels...
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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 1:19pm
The squirrels are out and about again as I am waiting to hear from EAP. We talked on Friday am and I noticed he was off-he seemed distant and distracted, but had made an effort to contact me and wait for me to see me until I got in to work. His W had been sick and he had to cancel our lunch plans since he had missed a day of work and had to catch up. He promised me we would go out this week. I just figured he was distant because of his W and maybe feeling a little guilty. His Mom passed away a few weeks ago and I know emotionally he has a lot on his plate. I didn't want to pressure him. I sent a few more emails on Friday, no response. I figured I would talk to him today. He was at work and took care of something work related for me and I sent him an email to thank him. No response. I sent another email later in the day just saying hello and asking about his weekend, no response. This isn't unusual if he is busy and normally I would just let it go, but after his being distant on Friday I am feeling something isn't right...the waiting for contact to know if things are okay, really stinks!
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Registered: 09-09-2010
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 4:23pm
Waiting is the worst.
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Registered: 04-28-2010
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 4:46pm
Thanks tangled. I should be used to this by now as I see it as a pattern of push and pull. I know tomorrow or the next day he will see me and he will apologize and tell me what he was up to. When he gets overloaded emotionally he needs his space, but so far,he has always come back. We had a good week last week and it makes it hard that he has pulled away this week. I think the closeness scares him. If we make it out to lunch this week I plan to directly ask him what he wants from me. I'm tired of reading in to things he says or does and I feel like he gives me mixed signals. I know he is trying to work through his conflict about this, but it is starting to affect my emotional well being. At times we make a step forward and then I feel like we step back again. I know he will tell me he just wants to be friends and that is not what I want to hear, but I need to hear it and just be his friend-no flirting, no I miss yous, no hugs, no hoping. He knows how I feel if he changes his mind.
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Registered: 03-29-2010
Mon, 09-27-2010 - 8:10pm

The "Monday" squirrels made me smile. Like maybe they wear a "Monday" T-shirt and the others all have "Tues., Wed." etc in different colors LOL.

Let us know how it's going. Hopefully you have heard from him by now!

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