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Tue, 09-28-2010 - 1:19pm

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Registered: 03-29-2010
In reply to: liseth2007
Tue, 09-28-2010 - 3:52pm

Welcome liseth!

The method of ending that you are describing is called "block and walk" over on EAS (ending an affair support). They recommend that method for everyone wanting to truly end their affair. You block him from e-mailing (you can do that with most e-mail accounts, or you can cancel any accounts you used just to communicate with him), you block his number from your phone OR you get a new phone and use that as an excuse to change numbers, and if he finds a way to get through anything, you do not answer or even read any texts or e-mails and you don't answer the phone when you know it is him.

I agree with this except for one thing - I think it is kinder to send one last e-mail telling him that you will be doing all of this and that it is over. I might wait until I'd already blocked as much as I could before I sent such a message to prevent having to see any responses as I would surely be in a vulnerable state. On EAS they say that the AP will know what the loss of communication means, but it seems like they will be able to heal better if they're not waiting for some sort of communication for weeks or even months before they accept what everything means.

If you are REALLY serious about ending and going NC (no contact) then read over at EAS and see if you'd like to join in. Here's a link:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/listsf.asp?webtag=iv-rlending&nav=start

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