I need to vent, badly

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Registered: 04-02-2003
I need to vent, badly
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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 1:49pm

Okay, most of you know I was in an abusive relationship for 12 years and the things he did to me, the things I allowed because I thought this was the love of my life. Well.......I found out from a very reliable source that my suspicions of him cheating were valid. He not only cheated on me with several younger women, his longest fling was with a woman who is now 70, he's 41. She was 67 then he was 38. I know this b***h, she is a bar fly and NASTY. I have an appt with my doctor on the 23rd to be tested for any and all diseases. I live 1 mile from this woman. I'm ready to go over there and confront her, but you know what, I hate her, I hate him, but I can't whip an older woman. One punch and I would be in jail, but I can't say I don't want to do it. I truly want to rip them both apart.

XDH still has junk in my garage. I left him a message that stated he had from noon to 3 this Saturday to get his stuff. His brother has a pool table there, does anyone know if it is legal for me to sell it? It has been in my possession for well over 4 years, and 5 months since xdh left. He hasn't made an effort to get it, though xdh has gotten almost all of his junk out. I'm just fed up being the storage unit for his idiot brother when I truly disliked him since I met him 12+ years ago. I feel the favors have run out! I'm no longer part of that family and they sure never did anything for me the entire time I was in the family. I'm just fed up being used by them all. FED UP.

Thanks yall.....I'm actually much calmer now than I was last night. Ohhhhh Katie bar the door, last night if it hadn't been cold out I would have taken a stroll to her house.

OKAY...I'm done. Thanks again.
Carla

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Thu, 03-17-2005 - 2:45pm

Hugs, dear!

I don't know if its OK to sell the pool table or not.

But you should take a stroll over to the Betrayed Spouses board....http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rladultery ...they helped me loads when I was going through it.

Hugs,
Rowan

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 03-17-2005 - 3:02pm

Carla,


Let it go...that is all you can do...and no, i don't think you can sell xdh's stuff right now...you might want to call an attorney for their opinion.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Thu, 03-17-2005 - 3:06pm

Thank you Rowan. I think I'm going to call the Attorney General's Office. I work for State Government and I can walk over there if needed. I would visit the other board, but I am going to try really really really hard not to dwell on what he did to me.

It made me feel so dirty and nasty when I was told. Now I'm just angry that I feel used by him and his family. For me, it's over. I'm actually glad I found this out. He was calling me all the time trying to "stop over for a bit" if you get my drift. I had let him come over in the past (about a month or two ago). Now he'll never call me again, if he does I'll be in his a** so bad. LOL, let him call. =o) I'm not scared of him anymore. He's scared of what I may do. I'm going to make him think I'll do something and then not do anything at all. That will eat at him. That will be my revenge.

Thanks again. (((((HUGS)))))
Carla

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Thu, 03-17-2005 - 7:09pm

Carla:

I know it is difficult to find out, even after the fact, that someone cheated on you. HOWEVER, you are not with your ex any more. Don't dwell on it. I would absolutely go ahead and have some testing done, just in case, but wouldn't spare another thought to it or him.

As for the items in your garage - I was in a similar situation and the laws in MN (not sure what they are where you are - you'll have to do some research into it) are that it is considered abandoned after 30 days. You then MUST notify the person(s) in WRITING (can use registered mail to the last known address or an ad in the paper) stating that they have 30 days from the date of the notice to remove the items. If they haven't removed the items you may dispose of them. If you don't follow the law to the letter here, they can sue you for the value of the items plus associated court fees.

Tracey

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 3:37pm
Thank you Tracey!