Need advice again please .especially from Nevereasy!

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Registered: 07-17-2010
Need advice again please .especially from Nevereasy!
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Wed, 10-06-2010 - 10:29pm

Well, I've posted here before about my situation and don't want to bore you all with a repeat of everything I've said previoulsy, but I am MW with MM.

After having so little contact with MM during summer months, only a few phone calls, saw him in in late June or early July,and haven't seen him since.

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Wed, 10-06-2010 - 10:39pm

Im sorry you are dealing with this. My only response to this is that if he wanted to get in contact with you, then he would. Its not that hard to do, if its what you really want to do. If you ( not you specifically, but you in general) want to do something, if you really want to see or talk with someone, you will find a way. When I hear of men ( or women) that dont contact the person they are in a relationship with, I immediately think that person isnt that into you. Otherwise, they would make the effort to contact you. My 2 cents, for what its worth,

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Wed, 10-06-2010 - 10:58pm

I know what you mean, if a person wants to talk to someone they call the person.

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Wed, 10-06-2010 - 11:13pm

I dont think telling him not to call anymore, if he wants out, is giving him an ultimatum at all. I think its giving him an out, if thats what he wants. I dont know, the only thing I do know is that you will make yourself crazy trying to second guess what he is doing, and the only way to find out for sure whats going on is to ask him and talk to him about all this the next time you can connect. Communication is the key to any relationship, and that goes for

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I'm not Nevereasy but I'm sure (at least I hope) he'll be along soon LOL.

He might be continuing to call you because he wants to have sex again, plain and simple.

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Thu, 10-07-2010 - 10:48am

Hi New2a1,

Now you are embarrassing me :-) ..

I agree with Lexi, he's interested in having sex with you when the time and place is convenient for him.. he knows you are avaiable, since you return his calls, but not in any rush to get things going..

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Thank you for your reply and response.

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Thu, 10-07-2010 - 11:06pm

The reason that I am suggesting that you let it go.. is that this is as good as it is going to get.. he may even find time again in the next month or so, and you may see him more often for a little while.. but before you know it, it'll get back to this.. whatever reasons we can guess as the reason for his actions, the fact remains that he's where he is at, and where he is is not where you want to be with him.. you want him to be more available, but he can't be.. so, where does that leave you?

I agree that entering an A and finding someone is very hard, but that difficulty should not be the reason you are waiting for him.

As to why it was that he had more time for you in the beginning, it's probably related both to logistics, that at that time, he did indeed have a break in his flow of things, and that, in the beginning of most Rs, people do give up a lot to spend time with the new other..

If you feel it'd be helpful, do tell him that you're moving on.. I doubt there'd be any harm in that.. My fear is that he may just say that he understands and that he'll make more time for you, and he will for a while, and before you know it, you'll be right back to where you are now.. if you are lucky, when you tell him you are moving on, maybe he will see things your way and tell you it's best that you part ways..

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