update from crazytown
Find a Conversation
update from crazytown
| Sun, 10-10-2010 - 5:09am |
the marriage is trudging along. the H and i will celebrate 15 years together next week. i'm pretty sure i can not make another 15 with this man, but the children cry when they

Pages
I think he doesnt want to lose you completely...keep you in the wings kinda thing.
Hi Marie,
So glad you found your way back here!
My guess is that your AP#1 is more in touch with you now because he IS far away and doesn't have to back up his words with actions.
You've got a lot of choices. I
I think you need an AP#3!
I think you're right about it being a hard thing to deal with, with an AP. I deal with it with my H and thats what I am suppose to do as a wife. I applaud Marie for dealing with it with an AP. Perhaps you have strong feelings for this AP, Marie? I would think you would have to in order to accept the ED. Like was said, in most cases an AP is one who is suppose to be
Hi Marie,
AP#1 are you ok with being with him 4 times out the year? Will it be hard for you to spend time with him and then watch him leave? I think you were doing so great while he was gone and perhaps you should continue that way. He seems to cause you more heartache then anything else but of course only you would know the true answer to that. If its worth for you seeing him a few times a year then go for it, if not then I'd go NC and continue with AP #2.
I find that you are very patient for being able to want to deal with AP #2 ED issues. I think you feel for him alot and if he's accomodating and making you some what happy at the moment then just go with the flow. Hopefully his ED will get
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
<
crazytown is an interesting place to be in, yes? thank u all for the replies. i didn't know that any one had replied b/c i didn't receive any email notices that replies were sent, so maybe i have to reset some
I'm glad you finally got back here Marie. :smileyhappy:
You've got a lot of choices. I
hello pr,
thank u for your insightful reply. i am just figuring out how to respond to indiv replies, etc.... sorry for a delay in replying. i did try to send out a reply to all, but i guess that feature is outdated now.
u r right.
i do think i am close to telling ap#1 gud-BYe! it is just so hard. and i really am very fond of him. it doesn't make any sense that he chose to cut me off for almost three months b4 he even moved out of state. and then a couple of weeks after his BD he writes/calls me again. i get that he is lonely and unfulfilled in his own marriage, but i do not understand his own communciation style whatsoever. ihatehim i lovehim etc.... etc....
the ED: i have previously learned what he likes to have happen and how and when, and i am soooo o.k. with that b/c he is really fun! i guess the first few times i was a bit disappointed at the longevity of "stuff" but now i understand why he believes in "ladies first". yay me!
thank u for your candid advice. i really do appreciate it.
i would love a private jet! verycute!! & thanks for the laugh.
ap1 literally makes me sick to my stomach at times. and when i tell him these things he just retorts with comments unrelated to feelings whatsoever. he does not emote regularly. he also just sent a package from VS for me as a way to sweeten the pot! i am so confused.
yes, the ED in a husband is what def would have sent me out searching another alternative; however, ap#2 is sooooo good-looking, civic minded, and talented, i swear just his resume makes me hot! he is such an excellent specimen of opportunity (i tell him often), i honestly don't think i could have designed a better "partner" in the looks dept.
what is interesting to me now as i write to you is that i see i find ap#2 incredibly attractive, so good to look at, and quite physically appealing. i recognize ap#1, i am drawn to intellectually. he is hot in a very charming, wise, and witty way which just resonates with me so very deeply: his voice, the look on his face, the words that come out of his mouth, are like candy.
ah yes, crazytown seems to be bustling with new residents every day!! i wish i could be more simple and just move away. ;)
Pages