Nerve Rash Questions
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| Fri, 04-22-2005 - 9:41am |
Okay yall. I'm sure you've read my posts, most of you anyway about my rash. Well pdoc confirmed the other evening that it is indeed a nerve rash. I've had this since October when xdh left the house. Now it is getting severe, over the past two weeks I've been rapid cycling and mainly depressed or in a mixed episode. I've been a mess. Well....the spots are starting to itch (this isn't from the lamictal I just started taking it) and I am prone to hives so I'm starting to get scared. Esp. since the lamictal can cause a fatal rash, how will I know the difference between what I have now and a fatal rash. GRRRRRRRRRRR. I just want to be stable. Well, if anyone has had a nerve rash can you give me some advice. I've taken aveeno baths, oatmeal baths, showered with moisture rich shower gel. I'm just worried about the benadryl. I really want to take some but I can't here at work because then I'd be snoring pretty darn hard.
Well, any advice will be greatly appreciated.
(((((HUGS)))))
Carla

Carla:
I occasionally will get a similar rash, however I am lucky enough that it is limited to small areas on my body. I too fall into a sound sleep from taking benedryl, so my dr recommended that I buy the benedryl cream or gel - you rub it on the rash and it works in the same way as the ingested version does. It worked WONDERS on my rash. One thing he made note of to me was NOT to use the cream or gel AND take the ingested form as it will cause you to exceed the recommended dosage for the day and could cause problems.
BTW: I was going to post to you on your other thread regarding your pdoc visit the other day - I wanted to make sure you realize how much progress you seem to be making lately in dealing with the seperation from your ex. I can see you starting to express more about the fact that it IS a difficult change and that you have things to work out with it, as opposed to the conflicts you have with him personally. It's WONDERFUL and I am happy to see you making the steps to heal all the damage he caused you.
Good luck
Tracey
Carla,
Definitely get the benedryl cream.
Tracey and Keli:
Thank you both so MUCH!!! I will get the cream, thanks for the heads up on not using them both. I know I would have for sure. The rash is totally all over me but I have some areas that are worse than others so I will get that today before I go home. It doesn't help that my nightmares make me sweat at night. I wake up soaked and that can't help a rash, I think on top of it all I have a heat rash too, I'm not really sure. Pdoc seemed very sure it was a nerve rash.
I haven't noticed any change in me with xdh, I'm grateful that you both said that. To be dead honest, it is because he doesn't want me to mess up his life w/his new g/f. Which has set me into tears. I can't really say I don't remember the bad but lately all the good is what comes to my mind. I know that he is toxic to me, I too am probably toxic to him. It is so hard to move on. I have a friend who really would like to go to a baseball game w/me and he's cute, but I don't want to. At this point I can't stand the thought of another man other than xdh touching me. I know I need help, badly to get over him. I guess the abuse really worked better than he thought it would. I dunno. It will be a very rough, hard, rocky road for me to travel again, but I will if it helps me move on and have some sort of a life. Now I get up, go to work, come home sit in front of the tv and go to bed and the cycle continues. I need to stop that and start getting out of the house. I'm going to take baby steps so it may take a while.
Thanks again yall.
(((((HUGS)))))
Carla
Carla:
As horrible as this sounds, maybe him moving on and not wanting you to interfere with is new life is the best thing he could do for you right now. I know it didn't seem like it at the time, but when I caught my daughter's dad cheating on me, it turned out to be the best thing in the world for me. It made it definite that he was done with me and didn't want us to be together. Because of that, I couldn't hold on to any false "hope" (why I would HOPE to keep a jerk like that was beyond me, but we always seem to!!) that we were going to get back together. It FORCED me to move on. I only went to a few sessions of therapy (but I was also with him a fraction of the time you were) but it taught me some wonderful coping skills. Still, it took me close to 2 years to completely get over it. During that 2 years, I was able to start living again and dating and enjoying life. It might take a long time, in fact it probably will, but as long as you keep moving forward (and don't beat yourself up for any backward steps either present or past) you WILL get past it. And think what an accomplishment that will be - to have freed yourself from everything he has said and done to you.
Good luck and hang in there!
Tracey
You couldn't be more right. When he first told me he had a new g/f I thought he was lying to me, he had been out of the house for some time then. But the other day I asked him if he loved her, he said yes, but he'll always hold me in his heart and that he was so sorry for the way he treated me. He was working on his closure and I am glad he did. I have been pining over him (like you, why do we want to hold onto losers, but we do) since he left but once I found out the lady really existed I knew I had to do something. It will take a while, which sucks since I have lost most of my adult life w/him. I was 24 when we met and May 11th will be our anniversary. We married on the same date as we started dating so 5/11 is a HARD day for me to get through, but I have a pdoc and a tdoc appt that day. Well...my Taco Bell order is here. YUM, I'm starving.
(((((HUGS)))))
Carla