So I fired my shrink....now what??

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Registered: 05-23-2004
So I fired my shrink....now what??
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Thu, 05-19-2005 - 9:30pm

So my psychologist has been off somewhere else mentally for the last few months. I finally got fed up when he was starting to snooze... He has been my shrink for like 6 years, so this was hard, but...
Here is what I wrote to him:

I have been debating whether to call or email. It is easier and less stressful for ME to handle this in an email, so here goes.

I don't know why you are overwhelmed, nor do I really want to. All I know is that you obviously are, and have been for awhile. I could be wrong, of course, and this could be some passive attempt to fire me, but if it is not, then you need to be aware that you are appearing to be very off your game. Very much.

So...I am terminating for now. I am not really angry, but I am really getting nothing but extremely frustrated, and I don't see the point. I guess my main concern is that I DO care enough about you to hope that you aren't like this all the time. I do not want anything bad to happen to you because you were just punching the clock and not paying attention.

So..now what??

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Registered: 09-21-2003
Fri, 05-20-2005 - 9:39am

I think your letter to him was very eloquent. It's obvious that you thought out everything you said and came across with your points without strong anger.

I hope that you find a new doc that you can relate well with. I was lucky -- I got a good tdoc and pdoc on the first shot - but for others it takes a long time.

Good luck to you, and I would imagine that you'll hear from your doctor very soon with major apologies in hand.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:25pm

You showed a lot more restraint than I would have (or did)!

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Registered: 05-23-2004
Sun, 05-22-2005 - 11:05pm

Thanks-he did write back-a pretty lengthy email-asking me for some specifics on why I felt he was out of his game, saying he took this very seriously, and he respects my wishes. He said some things about where he was making mistakes, but also pointed out some of my behaviors that made him frustrated, and some things that he would like me to work on if I choose to continue therapy with someone else. It was very enlightening, and it appears as though I still have some work to do.

Right now, I am taking a break. I have been through quite a few changes lately-I switched meds, quit smoking, and am working out every day to make my body strong. I am also in the process of selling a house I can't afford, but am not sure where to go from there...everything is expensive...and I will NOT take the kids out of private school, so that limits what I can spend on a mortgage considerably...

"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."--Philo


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