She meant well....but

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Registered: 04-02-2003
She meant well....but
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Tue, 05-24-2005 - 11:08am

My dear Mom, who is on a pension and a tiny one at that bought me a bunch of tapes from a &*^%$#@ infomercial. Lucinda Bassett / Midwest Center for Stress and Anxiety. HERE WE GO AGAIN! If I keep this (*&^ over 14 days she'll have to pay over 500 dollars!!!!! I just KNOW BP can't be cured like this. She will be spending money she doesn't have. I just want to box it all up and tell her NO. But I can't. You should have seen her face when she thought she was going to be my saving grace. I cried. She means so much to me yall. To disappoint her by not at least trying this program would be enough to kill me, literally!

Now of course it came at a time when my rage has hit the freakin' roof thanks to Aunt Flo I'm postal today. One more person tells me to smile I'm gonna smile....once I kick the sh** out of them. GRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anyway......I'm stuck between a rock and a boulder here. I want this sh** to work, but I know I'm not just a nervous nanny like I'm thought to be in my family, or just an emotional girl, or she lets xdh get to her in such a negative way, this will help her. I want to scream. I must say that the relaxation tape was nice once I stopped laughing at how stupid it was. but I can get a tape like that for under 10 bucks.

My dear Mom fell victim of an infomercial and now for the next 15 weeks I have home work. I've not had home work for 19 years now. GOOD (*&^%^%$$ GOD!

Sorry for the language. I'm raged bigger than HE**! I want to make my mom proud, but now 45 minutes a day/3 times a day for 15 weeks. LORD, 36 and back to school. To me this looks like too much work. It asks me to evaluate myself. what i like what i dont' do because of the stress and anxiety. I'M BP!!!!! This sh** happens because of a chemical imbalance....if I could freakin' think myself better i would have done it years ago. BUT...can't say that to my Mom. I would never disrespect her.

Gotta go.....I think I'm going home......I'm just ready to rip up all my work. I'm ready to throw this stapler across the room just to watch the window shatter. NOT GOOD>
Carla

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Tue, 05-24-2005 - 1:05pm

Carla, what a delema. I know your mom did mean well as you said. It is hard when someone reaches out to help us and we don't want to tell them it isn't that particular thing we need. Those info comercials are arip off alot of times and we need to be careful not to get in there trap. I feel bad your mom got caught up in it, but it was her love for you and wanting to make it all better for you that made her do that. I don't know what to tell you about telling your mom or not telling your mom about how BP is a chemical inbalance and something tapes won't cure. If you decide to keep the tapes I don't think it will hurt to try and do them. You might learn something about yourself you didn't know...who knows unless you try. I do understand however, that your mom can't afford these tapes.

I hope your PMS eases up on you. It seems to be rough month for you.

Hang in there. I hope it all works out. Sorry I couldn't have been more help.

Tina~

 
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Registered: 04-02-2003
Tue, 05-24-2005 - 2:59pm

Tina,
You are always a help, no matter what. I tell ya.......it has been a heck of a year so far for me, and this was my year. LOL

I'm going home in 1/2 hour. Time for the heating pad an the couch.

I appreciate your friendship.
Carla

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Tue, 05-24-2005 - 3:17pm

Hi Carla,


Wow sounds like you are having a really hard day. I don't know what you should do about the tapes. I understand that your Mom is trying to help any way she can. If it were me I would send back the tapes before the 14 days were up, and save her the $500.00. I would explain that while I appreciate her wanting to help, I don't want her spending so much money on it. There are better ways to spend that money. Like going out and having a Mom and daughter day. Things like that.


Hang in there,and let us know what happens. I hope you feel better soon.
Love and hugs,

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Wed, 05-25-2005 - 10:01am

((((carla)))) i can relate to your situation. my ex is still trying to 'cure' me with his little philosophical quips. he means well, but it's just not that easy. lord knows i wish it was! but the one difference is his quips don't put a financial burden on him.


have you tried approaching your mom and just saying 'ya know mom, i appreciate what you are doing more than you know, but the financial strain it will put on you will only undo any good that can come from these tapes.' put a spin on it that you are interested in her well being as well as your own.