Please tell me I don't suck.....

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Please tell me I don't suck.....
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Sat, 06-11-2005 - 3:59pm

My oldest is leaving for Vegas in the morning with my parents. Most years I am upset he is going and miss him. This year, I know he and I need the break from each other. He has been fighting with his brothers, whiny etc. I will miss him but maybe not as much as I did in years past. God, I feel horrible just typing that. Probably tommorrow night I will be in tears over this post, but is it OK to want a week break from one of your children? (I would love a break from them all, LOL but the others are still too young). What are your opinions?

Missy

 
 
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Registered: 10-03-2004
Sat, 06-11-2005 - 5:30pm

It's okay to want a break. My DD is only 5 months old and already there are times I need a break from her. Don't beat yourself up over this.

Vista


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Sat, 06-11-2005 - 6:15pm

Of course its not WRONG to want break from one of your children! they're people too! even tho their yours little people don't mean they cant be little pains in the booty sometimes. Heck, i don't have any children so i get down right sick of DH sometimes, and when my mom was alive, i got sick or her too, just like they get sick of US. your human! you have feelings good or bad you have them and without them we'd go bonkers. You wont feel like this all the time! we know you love ALL your children. theres nothing wrong with the way your feeling, as long as you dont find yourself feeling like you want to tie him to the train tracks like lillian Gish, and im sure thats *not* the case lol!.

while hes away, your gonna find you miss him very very much and your feel that you cant *wait* for him to get back to you so you can give him a hug and a kiss. give him a call when he gets where hes going. tell him how much you love him and hope he has a good time. and when he get back, take him out for a burger or a movie just you and him and maybe all you children.

i hope ive helped, being that i don't have kids i guess im the last person you should listen to! Good Luck............YOUR A GREAT MOM

VALERIE

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Sun, 06-12-2005 - 8:16pm

Missy,


You do NOT suck--it is perfectly normal to need a break--especially, if you have more than one child (or childish SO)!

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Registered: 10-23-2004
Mon, 06-13-2005 - 8:24pm

Argh!

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Registered: 01-31-2005
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 1:05pm

You definitely do not suck! You're having feelings that I think most moms have. I know I sure do! I have two DDs and they have just gotten back from visiting their grandparents who live about 6.5 hours away. Because both sets of grandparents don't live nearby and don't get to see them much, occasionally my DDs will go visit. I do miss them when they are gone, but I also enjoy the break. I'm introverted and need my alone time. When they get home I'm usually refreshed and rejuvenated and ready to take on being mom again.


Your DS will be fine. Take care and don't beat yourself up about it.


Hugs!