Wondering about my sister....

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wondering about my sister....
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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 3:08pm

and if she might be Bi-Polar, or at least mildly? She is 40, was divorced 5 yrs ago. She walked out on her husband and 2 kids cause she "just wasn't happy". Took her dh a week to figure out how much life was better without her and he filed for divorce.

To make a long story short, (and she is 3 hours away from so, I don't see her alot) she does have stages of depression, (has been on anti-depressants, but not right now)at Xmas time my other sister called her and thought that she was suicidal.

Most of the time to me she seems ok, has very strong self-esteem. Too strong, she thinks she is really hot and all men want her. Really, she does, she is constantly trying to pick up men too. No matter where you are, out to lunch, shopping for shoes, etc...And she really kind of just looks like (forgive me this) "Trailer Trash". Or as my dh says, "she has easy written all over her". she tries to dress like she is 21.
She has had a lot, and I mean a lot of one night stands. (now she was never promiscuos before she got married) A friend of hers told me that she doesn't really date anyone, they don't take her out to dinner and a movie, they just call her when they "want some". But according to my sister, she is "dating or seeing" this guy.
she lost her job last summer (a secretary at the courthouse) because she can't get along with anyone and had too many complaints on her. She is in denial and thinks everyone was "after her".
She acts like nothing is wrong with her life, that she is great working her little minimum wage job, living in "a shack" etc.
she has always been very mean to her kids. Like loses it and yells at them (and to her ex) but he escaped. One time when her ds was 4, at Chucky Cheese when he couldn't decide what prize he wanted, she yelled at him that "she didn't want him anyway and go see his dad, he's the one who wanted him". Thats the kind of stuff she does.
She is very disorganized, messy, etc....
Anyway, I guess I just wanted some advice. Do you think theres a reason to think she might be Bi Polar? or is this just "her". Maybe I'm wanting a miracle pill that I could give her and "fix" her. And that just isn't going to happen.
Please help and thanks in advance.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 4:44pm

Hi and welcome.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 5:21pm

If she is anything like me, you can mention seeking help to her, but she is going to have to want to get help before anything will happen. You can not force her to seek help, so that you may find out, unless of course she is suicidal.

Missy

 
 
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Registered: 10-23-2004
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 8:39pm

Just my $0.02.