i stay the same, wife gets huge

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Registered: 10-25-2010
i stay the same, wife gets huge
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Mon, 10-25-2010 - 11:47am

hey there, i got married a few years ago to a "bigger girl" who has gained even more weight.

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Registered: 09-24-2007
Mon, 10-25-2010 - 12:16pm

Okay, first off, let's hope that no one is trying to wipe the floor with the other one in your marriage.

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Registered: 08-23-2008
Mon, 10-25-2010 - 10:50pm

Hi Chatguy,

You said that you've tried to be supportive.

"Never run faster than your guardian angel can fly!"

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2010
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 11:26am

Why do you think they say "why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free"?

You bought the cow.

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Registered: 11-30-2010
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 11:29am

It does make you a worse person. Your worse because you no longer take pride in your appearance, you no longer care about your health, and you no longer care about the first impression you make on people (which is now "whoa, she's fat").

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Registered: 11-30-2010
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 11:31am

Some women are just really good at coming up with a lot of reasons that its not their fault that their fat. People are fat for two reasons; they consume to many calories per day, and they get to little execise. All the reast, is BS.

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Registered: 08-23-2008
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 9:45pm

Michael,

That was rather rude of you, don't you think?

"Never run faster than your guardian angel can fly!"

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-23-2008
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 9:57pm

Yikes!

"Never run faster than your guardian angel can fly!"

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Registered: 12-04-2010
Sat, 12-04-2010 - 8:06pm

I'm in the same boat, but I'm the wife who has gained the weight. My hubby was very hard on me our 1st yr of marriage. Atleast from my point of view. He thought he was being supportive by asking "you aren't going to eat that?" or "should you eat that?" Variations in different ways. He meant to be supportive, I just sunk deeper. Truly the best way is to love her with your words, touch, little gifts that don't include food, time with her and you doing little things to show her you care. Forget the weight for just a bit. Win her heart all over again, then you can be her sweetheart that loves her unconditionally.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-06-2010
Sun, 12-05-2010 - 11:23am

I have two simple questions here: 1) Has she expressed the desire to lose weight and, if so, in what ways have you tried to support her? 2) Is your concern for her weight gain centered around her appearance or the concern for her health?

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Registered: 01-06-2010
Sun, 12-05-2010 - 11:28am
This post was originally to someone else who posted something inappropriate. It has since been removed and I can't find an option to just delete my reply.

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