How do you deal with large crowds...

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How do you deal with large crowds...
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Fri, 06-24-2005 - 3:38pm

and other social functions when you're depressed? This is the hardest thing for me. Sometimes I just back out and claim an 'illness'. I am so HORRIBLY depressed this week and we have a huge party to go to tonight... 400+ people. I'll have to talk and I don't want to talk, but backing out of this one is not gonna fly with dh.

I dont know if I'm looking for a real answer or just some symphathy :(

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Registered: 09-21-2003
Fri, 06-24-2005 - 3:43pm

You've got my sympathy. There are some Sundays that I can hardly bear to go to church and we get 100 at the most. There are days that I can do okay, and others the thought of even being around my family will drive me up the wall -- I love my dogs though -- they can't talk back.

Good luck tonight.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Fri, 06-24-2005 - 4:18pm

Good Question,

I avoid them. I have no nice clothes to go out to parties and my family knows I'm silly to begin with so if I'm around them (my family reunion sounds like your party) I just act silly. I have used humor to cope for years. I try really hard to be this way all the time, but I'm not. Stay close to your dh. Have him stay close by in case you do panic. You'll have fun, Promise.

Hugs & Hope
Carla

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Fri, 06-24-2005 - 9:24pm
Well, I got back from the party a little while ago. My sweet, sweet dh knew I was having a hard time and told everyone that our little one was tired and needed to go to bed and brought the two of us back home. GOD BLESS HIM.
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Registered: 09-21-2003
Fri, 06-24-2005 - 10:15pm
I'm so glad! Chalk one up for the hubby! (they do come in handy on occasion - lol)
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Fri, 06-24-2005 - 11:30pm

valerie, i'm glad that you did ok for the time you were there and that dh loves you enough to have gotten you out of there.


i'm with carla on the coping mechanism of humor. when i'm in a situation like that i tend to crack jokes to avoid dealing with anything. depressed or not, somehow i can always come up with something off the wall and move on. it may not work with everyone but that's just my opinion.


again, i'm glad you weathered the storm and that dh was so wonderful to you.


hugs,


traci

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Registered: 10-23-2004
Sat, 06-25-2005 - 2:25am

Valerie,


I wish I could give you a "real" answer but I can't.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 06-25-2005 - 7:27am
I think I might be a little like you, Morgaine, but I normally LOVE social functions. This year has been so rough and now I hate them. ARGH!!!
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Registered: 09-01-2004
Sat, 06-25-2005 - 1:01pm

BIG hugs for your DH for giving you an early out!

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Registered: 11-19-2004
Sat, 06-25-2005 - 1:20pm

you certainly have my sympathy.

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Sun, 06-26-2005 - 2:39am
It should not surprise you that I'm the same personality type(although sometimes the "Feelings" take over") and then manic mandi is a different story!

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