DD in hospital

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Registered: 10-02-2003
DD in hospital
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Fri, 07-01-2005 - 11:09am

Last night my dd was so upset about her xbf calling and hurassing her. He has been doing it for awhile now. She broke up with him about 3 months ago. She has been having panic attacks everyday for about 2 weeks and feeling very overwhelmed. Last night she said she wanted to die and take my bottle of xanax. I hid my meds.

My dd is still at the ER psych department at the hospital. I just came home to get some of her cloths. I am so tired. I have been over there all night and then this morning. Right now we are waiting for her insurance company to approve the hosital stay. She has to be transported by ambulance to a place where there is teens and not adults. It is a good distance away but I can handle it. What I hate handling is seeing my baby girl in this pain. I wish it will all go away and be better.

I called my dd's xbf's mom and told her to keep her son away from my dd and if she didn't I would get a restraining order against him. I am so angry at the is boy that I want to beat the crap out of him myself. He is a bully and very verbally abusive to my dd. I am glad she left him. She thought they could be just friends but that didn't work. He is calling her a whore and everything and having his friends call her and harrass her on her cell phone. As soon as she comes home from the hospital I am having her cell number changed.

My dd is telling me and everyone at the hospital that she felt like hurting herself last night but doesn't want to now. She was hoping that would get her out of this hospital stay but it isn't. I am dying inside because all I want to do is bring my little girl home and make everything all better. Maybe if I was a better mother this wouldn't have happened.

Well I have to get back to the hospital and wait for the insurance peoples approval and wait for the ambulance in order to follow them to Sheppard Pratt where my dd will be staying for her treatment.

Love yo all,

Tina~

 
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Fri, 07-01-2005 - 11:26am

((((((((((((((tina))))))))))))))

This is not your fault!!!! You are not a failure as a mother. Hang in there.

Sending love and healing positive energy

Amanda

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Fri, 07-01-2005 - 11:28am
First, YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOTHER. You are taking care of both her and yourself and she obviously loves you and trusts you because she did the right thing and told you she felt suicidal. You have a living daughter this morning because you both did the right thing. She may be at a hospital, but she is safe and things will get better, you've stood up for her and protected her and good for you for calling his parents about this. I hope they aren't the morons they raised a son to be and will take it seriously. I hope she is home soon (I assume 72 hours) and you two will be able to stay together and talk more. ((((HUGS)))

littlemascara
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Registered: 04-02-2003
Fri, 07-01-2005 - 11:46am

Tina,

I'm glad your daughter got away from him, he's a loser. NOW....nothing you could have EVER done would have stopped any of this. You are a good mother, you love your dd and she is getting help. Hopefully your phone call will nip his antics in the bud. If I were you I'd go ahead and get the order against him. After all his stupid acts and those of his idiot friends landed your dd in the hospital. Run, don't walk to the courthouse. If she's a minor you can get it for her. I'm going to stop short of begging you to do this now while she's in the hospital. For her sake and yours please do this?!?! Boys like him need a huge awakeing before he grows up to be like my X. I'm sending you and dd positive vibes.

HUGS & HOPE
Carla

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Registered: 09-21-2003
Fri, 07-01-2005 - 11:55am

(((Tina))))

As bad as things are for me right now, I can honestly tell you that you are not a bad mother. You care about your daughter and want things to be better for her. That alone makes you a good mom.

I hope the hospital stay will help her and you can get some rest soon. Have you considered getting a warrant against the ex-boyfriend?

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Fri, 07-01-2005 - 1:22pm

(((((Tina))))),


You are NOT a bad mother!!!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 07-01-2005 - 1:38pm

Tina,


You're a great mom.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Fri, 07-01-2005 - 4:26pm

(((((((((((((((((((((Tina)))))))))))))))))) I just want to let you know, as has everyone else, you are in no way, shape or form a bad mother!!!!!!!!! My 15 yo dd has BP and I have watched her struggle, as I have struggled myself. Even though there's nothing I can do to "fix" it, I can get her the help she needs. You recognized the signs and the urgency of the matter and got her the help she needs. NO WAY does that make you a bad mom!


When I was in FL a few months back my dd went through a major depressive state where she was saying she wanted to hurt herself. I was in an unfamiliar place and scared to death. I sat up all night making sure she stayed safe. I probably should have taken her to the local ER there, but at the time, I wasn't thinking too clearly either. Last night, YOU WERE!


I applaud you for doing a very tough thing. The love you have shown for your daughter in this one action speaks volumes. Keep us posted, and try to get some rest if you can. And, if the ex bf continues, do not hesitate getting the restraining order. He sounds like he could use a good wake-up call!


Many Hugs,


Traci