boyfriend bi polar 2 - help

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Registered: 08-01-2005
boyfriend bi polar 2 - help
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Mon, 08-01-2005 - 11:51am

I'm new here.

My new boyfriend of 2 months told me this weekend that he was bi polar II and on medication for it. He said before he was diagnosed that he was high energy, fun to be around, an executive with a lot going on and could handle everything, the more stress the better. In his last relationship he said the bad side was he couldn't sit in a movie theater, he would rather do something productive. If he had a barbeque he couldn't invite just 6 people he would have to invite 50. Now that he's been diagnosed he can watch movies and not have a million things going on at once --- he can relax and the only negative side effect is short term memory loss but that could get better as he's more used to these drugs.

He stated Donald Trump has it, Oprah Winfrey and Robin Williams ---- most successful people have it and if you go out probably 20% of the people will have it - they will never tell you. Boyfriend said that it's a lot to digest and for me to seriously think about what I told him. We both want marriage in the future and this is my life too.

Should I be concerned. We get a long great. I understand it's past down to the children or a 50% chance. I've never been in a situation like this before. It didn't sound like he was the serious bi polar just more ADD like but now that he's on the meds and goes to therapy the man I know is a sweet man. He showed me his med and told me to research it this week - I can't tell anyone as it's a secret and if I get serious with him then I really can't share it so here I am - help!! ;-)

Advice.

Amanda

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 12:40pm

Amanda,


I think if you get along great, and your boyfriend is on meds, and under control of himself, then you shouldn't have any problems.

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 12:46pm

Amanda,


Welcome to the board, I'm glad you found us!

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Registered: 08-01-2005
Mon, 08-01-2005 - 1:49pm
Thank you for the information - that's the thing - isn't there always something in a relationship? Don't most people have some sort of issues? He could be a liar or thief or cheater - so he has this he's dealing with. It's hard when you can't discuss it w/friends.
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Registered: 08-01-2005
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 12:24pm

Thanks everyone.

He's on Depeakote. He said he will experiment with other drugs. If he does go off temporarily he'll have his mom stay with him and monitor his behavior - if it's bad he'll go back on but that's down the road if the drugs are too loopy for him or his therapist recommends he go off to see. Again we talked again last night (I'm drained and I know he is too) he was more ADD like - hyper not angry or moody. The more projects the better. He went a week once w/out sleep just to say he did it all the while giving presentations and doing travel in Europe with the time change - that kind of behavior.

I decided to date him and keep my options open. I keep flip flopping which is natural. This way it allows me to see his behavior while not giving up the opportunity to meet others, if I don't and like how he is then I didn't miss out on that him either. He suggested this and he said it cuts me to suggest this to you.

Thank you,
Amanda