My mom is no longer with me...Poss Trigs

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My mom is no longer with me...Poss Trigs
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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 5:03pm

I know there is alot of you who don't know me. My mom had emphysema for about 8 yrs. It finally took its toll and took her away from us yesterday. She died at home. My sister found her on the floor already dead. I was able to get there and see her before the funeral home came and got her. You could tell she died sufficating...not being able to get her breath. We made the arrangements today, which was so increditably hard to do. I am having a real hard time with this. I lost the best friend I ever had. No one can ever replace her. We are having the veiwing tommorrow and Friday and the funeral is Saturday morning. Somehow I need to get through these next few days...not to mention the next year.

Last week someone broke in my house when my dd was on vacation with her step mom and I was at my bf's. The weird part is they only took my house phone. I am glad that is all they took, but I live on the second floor apartment building. They climbed up on a latter or the tree in from of my kitchen window and cut the screen to get in. I don't feel safe there anymore and I can't get up and move right now. I used to live in a nice neighborhood and about a year ago my community started letting city drug addicts move in and trouble makers. With my mom dying and now not feeling safe in my own home just is too much to handle at once.

I hope everyone is doing well.

Tina~

 
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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 5:18pm

((((Tina))))


I'm sorry for your loss, but glad that the suffering is over. I know you are strong and will make it through the next few days...and year...but that doesn't mean you can't grieve. YOU don't have to be the one to hold EVERYTHING together.


Lots of love and positive vibes,


Amanda

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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 5:24pm

{{{{{{{{{{Tina}}}}}}}}}}

You can keep yourself safe, Tina. It's called locking your doors, and windows, and keeping a light on when you're not home. I'm glad no one was home to confront the person or person's that stole your phone, but you can get another telephone. Safety first.

 


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Sebastian


 


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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 5:27pm
I am so sorry to hear about your mother, I can only imagine. I'll be thinking of you these next few days.

littlemascara
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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 7:09pm

Tina:

I am SO sorry your mom has finally succumbed to her illness, but she IS still with you. You just can't see or directly hear her. She will always be with you in your heart.

Did you call the police about your break-in? Perhaps they have some ideas for you on ways to keep your home safer. I can't imagine how difficult that would be, to have my sanctuary invaded, because my home is my personal private space, and I would hate for strangers to rummage through it.

Stay strong, deep inside you have what you need to make it this next year. Call your pdoc - perhaps they can give you an rx to help you through the next few days.

Take care
Tracey

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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 7:30am

Tina,

My dear dear friend...words cannot express how I feel at this moment...I can only say that I am so sorry for you. I know how very close you were with your mom and through my tears for her, I know that she is in heaven with God and she is no longer in pain. She's with your brother now too. Think of those things and try to stay strong. Maybe when my mom goes to heaven one day soon, she will meet your mom and they can be friends, okay?

I'm sorry honey. I wish I could get there.

I'm going to get to the library tonight to my email and send you my cell and home phone numbers so you can reach me if you need me. I'm sorry, again. I can't stop crying, but its okay, I've had a rough time...and its teaching me a lesson I needed to learn ASAP.

I love you Tina.

Keli

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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 9:06am

((((Tina))))


I don't know you, but I wanted to say I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 9:34am

Tina,

I am so very sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is a very difficult thing, no matter what age you are. It is the end of a big part of your life. Please know, however, that your mom will always be with you in your heart. All of your memories of her will stay with you forever.

Catherine

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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 9:50am

Tina, I just want to let you know how sorry I am to hear of your loss. I know how it feels to lose a parent that you are very close to.


I'm not in the best place right now but I did want you to know I'm thinking about you.


Hugs,
Traci

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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 10:20pm

Tina,


I am so sorry about the loss of your mother, even though she was ill for sometime, I know it still comes as a shock.