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What do you do when - Triggers
| Sat, 09-24-2005 - 5:40pm |
....you can't pretend anymore? I have been wearing a mask, if you will, showing the world around me that I am fine. For quite a while, this technique worked. However, I believe I have worn out its welcome. I live in a home with 4 other people, and only one of these people knows of my bipolar diagnoses. I am afraid to discuss this with my employer for fear that I will somehow be a sudden "victim of a budget cutback."

The thing about masks
Did you know it is illegal for your employer to fire you (if that is what you were implying by saying "being a victim of a budget cutback") for the problems you have espcially when it is mental. Of course it also depends on if you had these problems or found out about them before or after you took on this position. If you knew of your situation before you got this job and didn't tell anyone then it is possible for them to fire you or even demote you for not being truthful when you were hired in. If you didn't know until after you got hired in then it definately is illegal and if it should happen once you do tell your boss you will be able to file a lawsuit. This is where your decision comes in. IMHO if you knew about it before you got hired in and didn't tell anyone I wouldn't say anything as you have chosen; but, if you didn't find out until after you were hired in then I would go ahead and say something so they know why your work is deteriorating and see if there is something your boss can do to help you. If it comes down to your boss firing you; collect all of the paperwork necessary as to when you got hired in and when you were diagnosed so if it does come to filing a suit you are prepared and can prove that you were fired wrongfully. I know this is something you probably don't want to think about but it might be something you need to do.
I hope that you find there are people in this world that care about you and don't wish to see you harm yourself. I am one of those people even though I've never met you. I'm sure the others on this board will agree that you will always find support here. I know in just the few times I've posted here I have found the support and care here that I never thought I'd find.
Christina; wife to Jeff; mom to Jeremiah, Brieanna, & Gavin