At Melt-Down Point

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Registered: 09-01-2004
At Melt-Down Point
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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 4:43pm

Jake just left so I can post without him seeing this--he spent the night & will do so tonight as well, but then is going back to the Mission tomorrow into a short-term, less restrictive program until he can go back to the other program--if they don't revoke his probation AGAIN!


I really NEED all your prayers right now--they are being real hard a** about the no contact in the other program although they had originally okayed limited contact.

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Registered: 04-06-2005
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 4:50pm

Marci


I love you...and I know this hard for you...but..and don't be mad at me.


You have raised dd, you are done..yes we will always be parents, and do whatever we need to, to keep them safe.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 09-28-2005 - 8:09am

Marci,

I love you too, but I am in total agreement with Donna on this one...I did basically the same thing...got married on a whim, WAAAAY too young...after getting pg, so that was an added "bonus". But I would NOT listen to a damn thing my parents had to say PERIOD, PERIOD, PERIOD. They were right, and I know that NOW...but then, NO WAY IN HELL! I also had to live with the consequences. Yes, it was hard. Yes, I threw away some opportunities. But it all DID work out in the end. You ARE done with Jen and you did a wonderful job with her. You gotta let go some, or you're gonna end up in a mess with your own illness(es) and that's not fair to you. I know its hard. OMG, am I learning that NOW! My ds is hitting those years now where I want to hold him back, and I can't! I have to let go and let him live his own life. I am terrified! But I raised him and I have to let him make his own decisions and be the man he wants to be.

Hang in there and I said a prayer for all of you.

Try as best you can to trust yourself Marci. This isn't your problem anymore as hard as that is to grasp right now. I know its easier said than done. Please don't get angry with us. I'm just speaking from experience as in btdt, and now from the standpoint of seeing my own son trying very hard to live his own life too.

Hugs,

Keli