Started New Job, Need Encouragement

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Registered: 09-11-2005
Started New Job, Need Encouragement
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Wed, 09-28-2005 - 6:13pm

Hi everyone..I don't post often but I need some help. I just started a job in a resteraunt (as a waitress, I've never done it before) and I am having a really hard time adjusting. I haven't worked in almost 3 years and I am having really bad anxiety and insecurity issues. I feel really stupid and slow and I feel like people are judging me and talking about me. My self-confidence is really low and I am very nervous when I talk to customers so they can tell I am new and unsure of my self. I don't think I can do this but I am so broke and in so much debt I don't have a choice. If I wasn't in so much financial trouble I would have quit by now. I have been training )for 3 or 4 hours a day) for a week and tomorrow they want me to serve by myself. I am so nervous and worried and I don't know how to handle it.

Anyway thanks for listening.

Kat

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-28-2005 - 7:20pm

Hugs. I know exactly how you feel My tdoc told me today that when you are in a situation like that, it is perfectly normal to be nervous. You are just learning and they expect you to be doing just that, learning. I was told today that instead of telling yourself that you should not be nervous, accept that you are and that is normal to feel that way.

Anyway, know that you are not alone. Hope that helps at least a little.

Missy

BTW - I love your screen name

 
 
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Registered: 09-11-2005
Wed, 09-28-2005 - 8:50pm
Thank you Missy :)
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 8:11am

oh kat honey, you can DO IT! just go in there, pretend like you are better than THEY ARE, because you probably ARE, and go about your business and get your day done, and get the heck outta dodge. Its just nerves and maybe a little BP making you feel that way. I've done waitressing too, and I know exactly how you feel.

Go there today and take the day in half hour increments. Just do it to get through the day. You WILL get through it, and you'll do well! You'll get some tips and make a little cash and you'll see, it will be okay!

BEST OF LUCK! I just said a little prayer for you and am sending positive thoughts all day!

Hugs,

Keli