This weekend: A no go

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Registered: 12-01-2010
This weekend: A no go
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Fri, 12-03-2010 - 4:25pm

As per my previous message about this possibly being a one last time weekend to be with him -- thanks to all of you and your sage advice, I'm not going to do it. He doesn't know it yet, as I have just not answered any of his calls and texts. Last night in a message when talking about a song he said something about him being an individual in love and of course it was so general that it could be taken any way (how convenient). Immediately I told myself "don't read into it. Don't get all dreamy like he's talking about you because he's not" and then sure enough he left a follow-up vm to say "hope you didn't take that message out of context" SO, there you go. I was right. Boy am I seeing through his little word games. And like a friend tells me, I could analyze it all day long and I still wouldn't know and what difference does it make anyway? He doesn't belong to me. So I know it is time to block emails, texts, calls, etc. I have deep down feelings that cut like a knife, but I don't think love should hurt like that. I have to cut him off now while I'm strong. I know, I'll be one gigantic mess on Sunday if I let him in again.

Love, Sunshine Dedicated to living my new life with integrity, truth and positive thoughts! I am worthy of true love and definitely worth the wait!
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Registered: 10-14-2010
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 4:29pm

WOO HOOOOOOOO!!!!

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 05-15-2010
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 4:40pm

WOW

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 5:02pm

WTG! I'm very proud of you for putting your self respect first. Let this be the beginning of a new journey for you, one where you will soar if you stick with us AND NC.:smileyhappy:.... Of course there will be road blocks along the way, but USUALLY they are just ourselves getting in the way of our progress.

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 07-21-2009
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 5:44pm

AWESOME!

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Registered: 11-18-2010
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 5:53pm

"Last night in a message when talking about a song he said something about him being an individual in love and of course it was so general that it could be taken any way (how convenient). Immediately I told myself "don't read into it. Don't get all dreamy like he's talking about you because he's not" and then sure enough he left a follow-up vm to say "hope you didn't take that message out of context" "

Oh wow.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2010
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 7:10pm
Yay sunshine!!! I'm sorry I haven't posted yet..had company still who left today..I'm so so glad you made the right decsion..I made that mistake this past summer and it was heart wrenching and brought nothing but pain. The visit was so painful because I thought I would never see him again (unfortunately that wasn't the case). So many tears and only more longing. NOTHING good came from 'one last get together'. You are doing the best thing for you and him. Congrats for your decision!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2010
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 7:52pm

FANTASTIC!!!!!!

I am sooooo proud of you!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2010
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 8:57pm

I cannot tell you how much we know the courage and strength it took to do this but wow!!!! So proud of you!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2010
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 9:06pm

Bravo. A very difficult and courageous decision, Sunshine. You made this decision in your own best interest and you will never regret losing your dignity "one more time." We certainly welcome "sunshine" around here. Stick around. All the peeps here are your new friends and will help get you through some of the rocky days ahead. Keep in mind, they are temporary and every day you will grow stronger and thankful for this decision.

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 08-30-2010
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 9:13pm
Sunshine...so happy to read this! I'm sure it will not be an easy weekend...but you'll have loads of support on EAS to pick you up when you are feeling down or give you a reality check when you need it.