His W is back to doing stupid things.... Hmmmm. She just had his baby and he left her..
We will see you back on this board within six months and we will welcome you with open arms. This guy doesn't seem like too good of a catch, but you will see.
I have to agree with the other two posters. If you are looking for strength NOT to let this guy back in, then we are here for you. Otherwise "After the Affair Support Board" is the one you need to be on now. I also agree that he is not D yet, so I wouldn't be putting all of my eggs in one basket.....just yet.
I have read on another very popular board for the SOW how this separation stuff can go on for years and then they still reconcile. I'd be very careful about
Iddy that last line you said "being out in the real world with whom someone we once played in the mud" being a whole other ball of wax is very interesting indeed. This scenario she is in could make us all stop and think about what we would do or want if the AP suddenly appeared at our door saying he's free. hmmm.
Your story and the what others have said really gives me food for thought. The romantic in me hopes that everyone is wrong and it will work out for you. But then I have a realist side too....and I'm just sayin, be VERY cautious. As a person who has been through separation and divorce, the process of separation and divorce is sometimes overwhelming and heartwrenching and confusing and sad and scary and so many other things I haven't mentioned even when it is certain the people should not be together. He will go through a ton of emotions throughout the process and will have to work on things emotionally for him to be good for you.
My advice to you is to WAIT - wait until he is divorced for awhile (like a good 6 mos) and then find out if he is even close to being ready emotionally to see you as your boyfriend.
This will be the true test. Time will give you that answer. If it's real and he truly loves you and you him, in the end it will work out and you will be together.
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Willow- This is a board that offers support for ending an A and moving on from that.
His W is back to doing stupid things.... Hmmmm. She just had his baby and he left her..
We will see you back on this board within six months and we will welcome you with open arms. This guy doesn't seem like too good of a catch, but you will see.
Hi Willow,
I have to agree with the other two posters. If you are looking for strength NOT to let this guy back in, then we are here for you. Otherwise "After the Affair Support Board" is the one you need to be on now. I also agree that he is not D yet, so I wouldn't be putting all of my eggs in one basket.....just yet.
I have read on another very popular board for the SOW how this separation stuff can go on for years and then they still reconcile. I'd be very careful about
Willow,
Your story and the what others have said really gives me food for thought. The romantic in me hopes that everyone is wrong and it will work out for you. But then I have a realist side too....and I'm just sayin, be VERY cautious. As a person who has been through separation and divorce, the process of separation and divorce is sometimes overwhelming and heartwrenching and confusing and sad and scary and so many other things I haven't mentioned even when it is certain the people should not be together. He will go through a ton of emotions throughout the process and will have to work on things emotionally for him to be good for you.
My advice to you is to WAIT - wait until he is divorced for awhile (like a good 6 mos) and then find out if he is even close to being ready emotionally to see you as your boyfriend.
This will be the true test. Time will give you that answer. If it's real and he truly loves you and you him, in the end it will work out and you will be together.
Very sound advice, Sunshine
WIllow I am VERY worried for you when I hear you say that HE "has custody" of his 6 week old daughter?
O.M.G.
Seriously?
I'm just calling out BS - because that is what this is.
First I want to address some of the questions.
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