what my tdoc said

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what my tdoc said
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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 11:39am
i see the pdoc today...my tdoc said that it's understandable that i should feel stress since i am experiencing my own versions of the end of the world(sounds dramatic even to my own ears)
on top of the others,there was a new one,that i didn't even acknowledge...& i was sworn to secrecy but this morning i told my husband cuz it's just not fair for me to have to have the entirety of the burden of knowledge.
my neighbor kicked her husband out(doesn't want me to tell)
she is suicidal(doesn't want me to tell)
won't get "help"
calls
me daily to tell me she almost killed herself & almost called me to take her to the hospital(or tell her where to go & not to tell)she tells me the same stories over & over again not about the important stuff but about the piddly stuff & says whatever is wrong in my life/house/whatever...hers is worse.
the thing is...this woman is a cancer survivor.i don't get it.why did she fight the cancer just to waste herself now.
i feel helpless & yesterday i yelled at her for thinking everything was HER fault & you know what?she didn't even hear me.she was so busy talking on & on about dusty furniture & cracked walls when everything else was really falling apart.
i don't even want to answer the phone.
am i a terrible person or what?
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Registered: 04-06-2005
In reply to: suziq_3
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 1:48pm
I don't think you are a bad person...I think this woman is putting way too much on your shoulders.
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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 5:30pm
thank you sweetie...actually when i told my pdoc this today he put his head in his hands & groaned.
yes..she really does need help.
but telling me to keep it from my husband that her husband moved out is rediculous.
anyway...i found myself doing the same thing at the docs office.talking about the DUMB things(people)that destroyed my week & that prey on my mind & nerves & make me crazy & not about my daughter's pathological hypochondria & the problems in my marraige & my fear & worry over my neighbor.
the 1st thing my h did was complain about my next appt being so soon...but i brushed it off.this dr. had actually asked me why i hadn't gotten in touch w/ him as soon as i started having trouble.
nobody ever asked me that before!
it's just me in this..
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Registered: 11-18-2003
In reply to: suziq_3
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 6:14pm

((((((suzi))))) first, i'm glad you told both your docs what was going on. that just is so unfair of your neighbor to do that. and as for you unloading on your tdoc about things/people that have messed up your week.........sweetie, that is why they get the big bucks! they are there to listen so that you can get back on your feet.


as for not addressing the hypochondria w/ your dd today, don't beat yourself up over it. yes, it is a great concern of yours, but you need to be in a place where you can clearly focus on it. and with the lack of support from h, and your neighbor's "oh so helpful" shenanigans, it's no wonder it didn't come up today. it's ok! maybe next week.


hang in there and remember we're here for you too:)


love & hugs,
traci