is it like an addiction?

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Registered: 12-09-2010
is it like an addiction?
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Sun, 12-12-2010 - 10:40am

I was so happy to see the previous discussion, that the feelings do fade.

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Registered: 07-21-2009
Sun, 12-12-2010 - 10:55am

WELCOME!

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Sun, 12-12-2010 - 11:40am
Hi wishesforpeace,

I am sorry for the loss of your Mom and the sadness you will feel with this first holiday. Have you thought about going to councelling? It would be helpful to work through your feelings of grief and let your emotions out. Sometimes when faced with situations that have huge impacts on our lives we can escape into fantasty instead of facing our issues, I have done this as well and by escaping the pain seems much more intense to go through by the time I was finally ready to deal with it. Read and post as much as you can, you will gain very valuable information and amazing support:)
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Registered: 11-22-2009
Sun, 12-12-2010 - 12:39pm

W4P,

Welcome to our community. I hope you have taken a good look around and have started reading the Healing Library. In answer to your question, yes, the AP becomes an addiction due to the immediate gratification you get from an email or txt, only to be followed by an extreme low after the high wears off. Then there are those times in between where you start to crave another fix from this person. If it doesn't come through soon enough, you start jonesing (having withdrawals) and will jeopardize your dignity by doing out of character things such as looking for him, going on a txt

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 10-14-2010
Sun, 12-12-2010 - 6:07pm

Hi there Wishes,

If you search on the term "addiction" here...You can see all the posts relating to that topic - and may find some interesting trench perspectives from everyone.

Best to you, In your Search for Peace,

Michelle

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 12-01-2010
Mon, 12-13-2010 - 12:14am

Hi there - I'm a newbie and only dealing with only day 7 but I can tell you that ABSOLUTELY it is an addiction. I think the attention plus the added taboo of it makes it a high. I think too that if the AP is deep into it too, you are his drug and the two feed off eachother.

For me, it can mean an addiction to romantic love/sex. I've known it for some time and it can spiral out of control if I don't keep a careful watch on it.

The best thing is to remove the drug of choice, abstain and try to find a healthy replacement.

Love, Sunshine Dedicated to living my new life with integrity, truth and positive thoughts! I am worthy of true love and definitely worth the wait!