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Three weeks NC today
| Mon, 12-13-2010 - 12:44am |
Hello beautiful people,
Three weeks NC today and i am OK, i am no longer an emotional mess as i had been, although a little teary yesterday - we were in the honeymoon part of the A this time last year and i was reminiscing the fantasy -

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(((Vanessa))
Yay for 3 weeks. They say this is how long it takes to break a nasty habit, but with affairs? Hmmm...I always had my doubts on that one.
(((Vanessa)))
Three weeks is certainly something to celebrate!!! I am so proud of you, honey bunny. I absolutely LOVED this: I have been quite staunch with my thoughts and stance towards my A, as far as i see it (and i have come to learn) 'my A was bad, it was selfish, it was delusional, it had the capacity to destroy my family, it had to be ended'
Vanessa - A HUGE congrats to you! I know it has been brutal, but you should begin to see the fog lifting and find yourself realizing how much was smoke and mirrors - which it sounds like you are.
Hello Vanessa,
3 weeks NC is awesome.
Atta Girl (((Vanessa))) :smileyhappy:
I'm so very proud
Cheers to you, too, gal. I like the way you handle the times you start feeling guilty and want to beat yourself up. I like the way you remind yourself that if spend your day feeling like crap because of a mistake you made, then you can't enjoy the moment/day for all the beauty it really holds.
Yay to you and thanks for sharing this insight.
Hey V!
Yes i do realise i have a long way to go, so far i haven't had the temptation to break NC,in fact it is one of my greatest fears, i don't want to return back to that first week, that was challenging to say the least.
V888
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Thank you always,
There are a lot of similarities between you and i, we are both married and we chose to have As out of our disconnect with our Hs, and they took place this time last year. I have not had the temptation to break NC, but that doesn't mean that i haven't reminisced the fantasy at all, as long as we digest that that's what it was we will be OK.
I totally relate to you when you say that you wouldn't trade where you are now for a minute of seeing him. I felt that by going into the A, it was going against everything i stood up for, everything i believed in. I have always worked towards being an intelligent, honest, loyal and strong woman, and when i was in the A i was anything but, i don't ever want to be that pathetic person again. We only get one shot in life and i refuse to live it in that way.
Your posts make me smile too :):)
Thanks for your time Always.
V888
Aaaaaawww thanks Foggy, thank you so much for the praise, it has been hard and could not have been done without the support of all of you.
Yes my discipline is keeping it real, we have to keep it real, and face the hard truths in order to move on. When EMM attempted to contact me it actually aggravated me, he was honest enough to admit to me that we would only ever be an A, so why would he feel the need to contact me for? Did he need an ego boost from the other side of the world? Also, his wife was nice enough to give him a chance and yet he still will risk his family for some more of that cake, that really turns me off from him, so it wasn't that hard to hang up on him Foggy. It's funny because if this had been three weeks ago his attempt to contact me from the other side of the world would have been received as him loving me. Yes this past three weeks have been a harsh, but steep learning curve.
Thanks for your time Foggy
V888
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