So what do I do when he calls?

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So what do I do when he calls?
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Mon, 10-24-2005 - 3:56pm

He is the one who makes contact the majority of the time. If SHE is in the room he asks for Liam.

But when she's not in the room & he's lucid he wants to talk to me. Do I just not ask questions in regards to recovery? It's hard to strike up a friendly conversation when you're in so much pain and I really don't know what he's doing with his day as it is with her.

But that is what I need to do to detach, right? Or do I ignore his calls from now on?

I don't want him to think I've abandoned him as he's so sensative to that, being raised by a BP himself. But if I need to detach to the point of not taking his calls I will. And just hope one day he's on my doorstep.

Bonnie

BTW we have 2 kids, but to justify his behavior he claims he hates me because I forced him into the 2nd child - she's 10mos, so it's like he's pretending she does not exist - except during his lucid moments b/c he's always wanted a little girl & loves her to death - so much so during the summer I was afraid he was forgetting Liam a little bit.




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Mon, 10-24-2005 - 4:31pm

I guess I would answer the phone next time, ask if she is around.

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