Trust going out the window!!!

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Trust going out the window!!!
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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 3:55pm

So when dh left he told me his paychecks would be coming to me & he'd ask for the bare minimum of what he needed. Well, I just got off of the phone with his HR. The paycheck was sent back to them because he had a forwarding address to the other woman's house, but I guess he had the wrong address.

HE WANTED ME TO PAY HIS AMERICAN EXPRESS BILL, I TOLD HIM I WOULD ONLY DO THAT IF HIS CHECKS CAME TO ME. Now I've paid his $700 Amercian Express bill & now I don't have enough money for the mortgage & his check is going to him (it's barely enough to cover mortgage).

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ANOTHER QUESTION
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Does therapy help BP pull out of mania? If he doesn't tell the councelor on Thur he's BP is the therapy even going to help him? Would sobering up help pull him out of mania? As I would think they're going to tell him he has to be hospitalized to detox since he took the Librium and continued to drink anyway.

Thanks,
Bonnie




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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 4:09pm

can you stop the payment to the credit card????


can he do direct deposit into an account instead of a paycheck going somewhere?

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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 4:24pm

AmEx check already cashed.

It was supposed to be direct deposit. But one check had to be mailed & then the rest into direct, but I don't know if he actually did that if he had changed his address to the California address.

I'm just sick. I miss my dh, I don't know who this other guy is????

From what I can tell there are not abandament laws in OR, but if there is, then I thinks this constitutes, leaving the state & having his mail forwarded & not sending money, sounds like abandonment to me. Then that way if I lose the house at least I can move into my mom's (UT) with my sister (mom is living in China now).

As it stands now I'm not allowed to leave OR & he's already told me he'll never allow it.

Bonnie




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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 4:27pm
Call the mortgage company and see if they can push a payment or two to the end of the term.
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