Situation update *triggers*

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Situation update *triggers*
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Wed, 10-26-2005 - 9:47pm

Told my husband about what happened today. He wants to kill him. I am still scared to be home alone. I feel violated. He did not harm me physically or attempt to rape me, he stopped. But the man entered my house without my permision, and pressured me to kiss him, and touched me in ways I told him not to. After I told him not to touch me is when he tried to kiss me, then tried to blame me. I want to know what the hell is wrong with me?!?!?! WHat vibes do I give off?!?!!? He said I look at him in a way that makes him think I want him. I dont trust him and that is the look I give him. HOw can you confuse I dont trust you with I want to sleep with you. Gawd, I am so tore up. Now I want to ask some really basic questions. I may sound stupid but I need help understanding this.

Why am I so tore up? It is not as though he raped me. I feel violated, but why? Can you please help me understand.

Jen

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 10:22pm
because he violated you .
that's why.
if that happened to me i would feel exactly like you do.
actually i can remember times in my life when similar things happened...not even IN MY OWN HOME & i understand exactly the horror you are feeling.
it's nothing but NORMAL!
i'm glad you told your dh.
you should let dh "talk" to him.
this guy is obviously a sick ****.
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 10:41pm

(((((((((((Jen)))))))))) You feel violated because you were violated. No, he didn't physically rape you or harm you physically, BUT he entered your home uninvited and came on to you.....again uninvited.


I'm glad you were able to tell DH. I don't understand the whole contract and house thing, but I would make it perfectly clear to this joker that he is NOT welcome in your home and the next time he attempts to gain entry or contact you the police will be notified immediately.


Keep us updated as you can.


Hugs & Love,
Traci


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Registered: 04-06-2005
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 9:26am

(((Jen))))


what you are feeling is completely normal...you were violated.

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