Dh says he needs to keep looking
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| Thu, 10-27-2005 - 6:59pm |
I don't know if he actually went to the assessment or not. When I asked how it went he was very stand offish and didn't say one way or the other.... just that he needed to find a new place. So perhaps me tipping them off was a very bad idea ... or perhaps they told him he needed inpatient care ... or perhaps he really didn't go (when I talked to him at 10:30PM he was 400 miles away, so I wonder if he was just too tired to make the AM assessment).
He's being so strange now, so secretive. He's lying to me too. He gives no indication of when he'll even come by to see his kids. Which is hard, my ds has whined many times today he 'needs daddy.' He also mentions how daddy doesn't live here any more, but then says daddy will be home for Christmas. Wow, what a 3yo can already come up with.
Maybe dh is like that with me now as he is traveling with her so they are probably always together and he cannot speak to me alone.
So, there is still no progress, I have no idea how long this woman plans to stay up here or if she ever plans to go back w/o dh.
Oh well, have a very busy few days ahead of me. Will be nice to focus on other stuff. I was able to focus on work very well today. Finished my work day by noon. That's great for the kids as I can spend better time with them.
I'll feel even better once the lawyer & therapist calls me back.
Bonnie

Bonnie,
I hate to be a pessimist, however with what you've said it doesn't sound like he made it to me either. I would just sit tight until you talk with a lawyer, find out what your options are and then take a hard-line approach with him.
You have a lot of information that could be useful in a divorce case. I know you don't want it to come to that, but maybe faced with the very real possibility, dh will come around. And, maybe there is some way legally to force him to get the help he needs.....another thing to ask the lawyer. If you really don't want a divorce that may be the route to go. Although I'm not sure if there's anything. It's worth asking a lawyer as they are the ones that would know that stuff.
Wish I had more for you sweetie, but that's the best I can do for you right now. Keep us posted. Hang in there:)
Hugs,
Traci
Bonnie
I don't have much more to add...just wanted to say hang in there and let us know how everything goes with tdoc and lawyer.
(((hugs)))
God could not be everywhere, so