temporary child custody

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temporary child custody
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Tue, 11-01-2005 - 12:39pm

If dh is coming out of his mania do you think I should proceed with the temporary child custody? The lawyer called me yesterday, but I was out so only received a message.

I really don't know what my gut says here. Seeing dh is as angry as he is over the checking/savings accounts I don't want to alienate him more. Plus, I feared her more than dh & she is supposed to leave in 2 days.

What are your thoughts? I know the decision is mine to make, but would like some input from people who understand this illness rather than people who were as naive or more so than I was just a few weeks ago.

Thanks,
Bonnie




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Tue, 11-01-2005 - 12:47pm

You have to consider what is best for your children...not how dh is going to feel.

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Tue, 11-01-2005 - 7:38pm

Bonnie,


Donna said it all, in my opinion. I second it. Having been through a very ugly divorce and rolling over so as "not to hurt my kids or my ex" and getting badly burned by it, this is advice I wish I had received back in 1999 when I needed it.


Hang in there sweetie and keep us posted. Call your lawyer and go from there. It's you and your kids that you have to put on the forefront right now. Once dh is in treatment he will come to realize and understand that whatever you do in the meantime is done out of love and concern for your kids.


Hugs & Love,
Traci