YES, you are bargaining. There is no need to contact him."Pretend friendship"? There can be NO pretend anything when you get back to work. It's going to be awkward no matter what, and it's up to you to be 100% professional and to not initiate any unnecessary contact with him at work.
Be honest with yourself. You need to be preparing and reading all you can on how to handle LC so you are as ready as you can be.
Hi wishes, try and refocus your thoughts away from contacting xap. Trying to see if your "ok" to work with each other will open new pain. You don't want to go there, it's too painfull. It's where I went wrong in my first two attempts at nc and the pain I set myself up for was horrible. Stay strong and deal with issues as they come up don't look to far into the future. It's good to have a plan in place but a plan that is about you and how it keeps you safe and strong:)
You've received some really good advice already, so I just wanted to add that YES, you are indeed in a bargaining frame of mind. Contacting him for ANY reason would be breaking NC.
Your LC will start when you return to work and until then, stay the course. Get up and moving...your family will be there soon and I am sure there are preparations to be made. Put XAP out of your mind...this is what not having to see them is for. It's time that you can put to good use.
Clean out closets, rearrange your rooms, get everything ready for Xmas...wrap gifts, bake, go out and finish your Xmas shopping, buy yourself a nice new Xmas outfit. There are endless things you could be putting this precious free time toward. Sitting around worrying about something that hasn't even happened yet is futile. You'll cross the LC hurdle in due time, so until then, let's get moving. :smileywink:
Wishes-
YES, you are bargaining. There is no need to contact him."Pretend friendship"? There can be NO pretend anything when you get back to work. It's going to be awkward no matter what, and it's up to you to be 100% professional and to not initiate any unnecessary contact with him at work.
Be honest with yourself. You need to be preparing and reading all you can on how to handle LC so you are as ready as you can be.
NC = No Hurts
Bodhi
Congratulations of 6 days!
I am focused on contacting him to make sure we are "okay" to keep working together.
Wishing,
You've received some really good advice already, so I just wanted to add that YES, you are indeed in a bargaining frame of mind. Contacting him for ANY reason would be breaking NC.
Your LC will start when you return to work and until then, stay the course. Get up and moving...your family will be there soon and I am sure there are preparations to be made. Put XAP out of your mind...this is what not having to see them is for. It's time that you can put to good use.
Clean out closets, rearrange your rooms, get everything ready for Xmas...wrap gifts, bake, go out and finish your Xmas shopping, buy yourself a nice new Xmas outfit. There are endless things you could be putting this precious free time toward. Sitting around worrying about something that hasn't even happened yet is futile. You'll cross the LC hurdle in due time, so until then, let's get moving. :smileywink:
((Hugs))