Came to the realization today...
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Came to the realization today...
| Tue, 12-21-2010 - 5:26pm |
I have been doing some reading in the Healing Library section today and I can't remember what post I was reading for sure but one of the things this post said was that the person who cares the least has the most control in the relationship.

It is very true, and I think we all know it...or at least, I did.
The less control I thought I had, the more I tried to be smarter, prettier, cleverer, fitter, sweeter, lovelier...you know the drill. It was like, "Pick me! Pick me!"
I somehow bought into the ridiculous notion that the more patient and loving and compliant I was the sooner he'd realise what a catch I was and leave his W.
Which put ALL the power in the relationship squarely in his hands.
Urgh. How could I have done it? Did I not realise how flipping amazing I was, anyway? Regardless of him?
Sigh. Onwards and most definitely upwards. :-)
Lol, so long as we do! Live and learn, I mean!:smileyvery-happy:
Great realization Livin :) Affairs create a tug of war power struggle unlike anything else. You are worth MUCH more than being someone's "fun". Remember that you have a choice and you are in control of your life.
Bodhi