is it worse during the holidays?

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Registered: 12-19-2009
is it worse during the holidays?
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Wed, 12-22-2010 - 2:53pm

If ever there were a recurring subject-thread on this board, I would assume it is this topic.

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Registered: 12-15-2010
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 3:03pm

You sound so sad...this is obviously an incredibly hard time for you.

Without sounding unkind, why do you still have her messages and photos? Would it not be kinder to yourself to delete and get rid of all those momentoes and turn your attention outward, again?

Hugs and I really hope it does get better for you...I am not sure how that is possible though if you are focused on the tangible things you have in front of you.

With kindness

ML

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Registered: 04-23-2010
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 3:14pm

I can't imagine anyone wanting to put themselves through this type of torture by going over old reminders, communications and pictures. Why don't you just stab yourself in the heart. It is the same thing.

I know you are going to get lots of advice, to delete, Delete and DELETE!!!

Hanging on to that stuff is just another way to hang on to her.

What comes to my mind at first glance, is that you are NOT committed to ending this thing. The thing that baffles me is who ended it. You or her?

Until you are fully committed to this breakup forever, than you might just as well be in contact and using each other, and violating each others marriages.

My next question would be: Why did you came back to EAS?

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 4:01pm
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And how is that working for you? Come one, mmwwha, time to get with the ending program and toss this stuff. And you assumed wrong....In my 6 years of being on this board, it is NOT a recurring subject. Actually, I think you are the first to post this drivel.

It's time to move on. Make this New Year count for something.
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 12-19-2009
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 4:04pm

In answer

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2009
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 4:12pm

>>And how is that working for you? <<

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-15-2010
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 4:12pm

But meantime, you are stopping yourself from being open to so much the world has waiting for you...can you see how that might be true?

You are stuck in a holding pattern and by saying you don't want her not to be part of your life, you are ensuring nobody else can ever be.

Again, said with kindness and respect.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2009
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 4:26pm

Lulu, you are assuming too much.

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Registered: 04-01-2010
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 4:31pm
Have you shared this with your wife?
Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2009
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 4:44pm

An excellent question.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2010
Wed, 12-22-2010 - 5:16pm

Sorry this is a bad time for you.

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