Stopping communication today

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Stopping communication today
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Thu, 11-10-2005 - 1:34pm

Trust was breached again last night. I've made my argument & now I'm done. If he wants this marriage it is time for him to fight for it.

Going to doc today for, most likely, Zoloft. Hopefully that will make me more of the mother I was before this all began.

I've always wondered what he'd be like in a phase w/o the use of alcohol. To my amazement, it's basically the same.

Bonnie




"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 11-10-2005 - 1:50pm

I am proud of you, Bonnie. You are strong, and you can get through this...btdt as I've told you, and many times I was shown the same thing...illness or not, drug/alcohol abuse or not, the problems, behaviors remained.

Its time to put the burdens on him...if it works out, it does...if it doesn't, you can't say you didn't try with everything you had to make it work.

I'm also glad you are going to the doctor to get meds for yourself...its so important that you take care of YOU and your kids right now...that's all that's important at this time...he's already proven, time and again what's important to him.

Again, we're all very sorry for your pain and struggles...but you're doing the right thing. We're here for you, so please don't feel like you can't continue to post. You're among friends. We're here to support you, and we'll always be truthful to you, as to what is in YOUR best interest. Of course, we don't always KNOW exactly what the future holds...but some of us have been there, on both sides of the fence and don't want to see you suffer further. I hope you understand that.

Love and Hugs,

Keli

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 11-10-2005 - 1:54pm

Bonnie,


I am sorry that this had to happen. I am proud of you for making the choice you have. You can only do so much. I think you have done more than you could. There isn't much you can do if the other person is not receptive to your attempts. Like you said the ball is in his court now. We will be here to support you. I know that it is hard to let go of a relationship you have so much time you invested your heart, your mind and your soul in. It feels like you are ripping away a part of you. But this man is not deserving of your heart, your mind or your soul anymore. It is his loss.


Take care sweetie,and please keep us posted.
(((((Bonnie)))))
Hugs,and prayers,

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