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Registered: 08-25-2010
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Thu, 12-23-2010 - 6:03pm

.I've been MIA during my sickness (thanks to all of you for the well wishes) and I am overwhelmed at the mass breakage of NC -

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Registered: 09-28-2010
In reply to: mynameislolly
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 8:33pm
i feel the same way Lolly - overwhelmed by the hurt & feeling a little helpless to help. I know we all walk our own paths and most of us learned the hard way just how necessary keeping NC was to moving on, but it is still hard to hear - especially as it seems like such a BIG wave right now.

I also want to remind those breaking NC by fishing ... that not only have your actions hurt you & set you back in your healing journey, they are also selfish as they show NO immediate concern for your Spouses, family, nor your xAP, or the family of your xAP.

It is just selfish behaviour all around, and hurts many ...

With Care,

TU.
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Registered: 01-18-2010
In reply to: mynameislolly
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 11:29pm

Me too.....I have barely been around, reading not posting as much. Its like things went bad quick. I am feeling like.....dangggggg.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 11-22-2009
In reply to: mynameislolly
Fri, 12-24-2010 - 7:41am
<> Amen, sistah!

(((Lolly)))

Feel better, honey. I hope you are well enough to enjoy tomorrow with your family.

(((Hugs))
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 10-14-2010
In reply to: mynameislolly
Fri, 12-24-2010 - 1:07pm

TU,

I wanted to let you know Im grateful that you approach your behavior in the A with SUCH PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY. Especially calling it selfish.

That has helped me let sink in DEEPLY, everytime I have those pity thoughts, "why me, poor me"....that I HAVE NO RIGHT to someone else's mate's time, feelings, actions, care, etc.

Your leadership in the selfishness area - by exposing that ugliness - has HELPED ME IN SPADES to RECOGNIZE MY OWN.

Thank you for your unintended Gift to Michelle! :)

xo

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 12-13-2010
In reply to: mynameislolly
Fri, 12-24-2010 - 2:14pm

Take heart!

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Registered: 01-18-2010
In reply to: mynameislolly
Sat, 12-25-2010 - 10:30am

wondering if you ever meant anything is so common around here. Ya wonder why they have not contacting you. Very normal. Try to look at it like this....does it matter? its over, so even if he is just crazy over you ending things and he is so hurt and distraught and losing sleep, would you want to start up again? If you want this to be over and I mean really over, than you keep plugging along as best you can. Very normal to feel like you do, as long as you do not linger there too long.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida