Frustrated with my Psychiatrist
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Frustrated with my Psychiatrist
| Mon, 11-14-2005 - 1:25pm |
Hi Everybody - Well, I got brave and went and talked to my psychiatrist on Friday about going to group therapy. I told her that I wasn't happy going and why. Basically, I have a real problem with the way this one lady is just able to totally dominate the conversation every week. This past week we were talking about anger issues and I said to the group that sometimes I get frustrated with my parents (I live with them) because they never put any dishes back or anything on their own. I always have to do it and now they asked me to make their bed everyday so, sometimes I feel like their maid. So, this lady Bonnie said that I needed to take some responsibility and quit being such a baby. She also told me that if I complained to my parents they would probably kick me out and that I better find another place to live. My doc and therapist just sat there and didn't say a word. Basically, my psychiatrist told me that I need to be more assertive and stick up for myself. She also told me that I am responsible for getting my own needs met in treatment. She said that if I didn't want to go to group anymore that would be fine, but she wouldn't be able to see me but maybe once a month if not longer. I am soooooooo frustrated!!!! She is right though I absolutely hate confrontations and will avoid them at all costs. I very rarely tell people how I feel if I am upset with them. I guess it's time to face the music. If assertive is what she wants then assertive is what she is going to get. I'll let ya'll know how it goes tomorrow. Talk to you soon - As always thanks for listening! Jena

Hi Jena,
They are right, as you said...you are responsible for your own treatment and your own health...as frustrating as that is. You have to be assertive, and believe me, I learned that the hard way! You only get out of treatment (whether it be meds, therapy, pdocs, tdocs, groups, etc.) what you put into it. Yes, it is a long process and very frustrating at times when you feel like you are butting your head against a brick wall.
Take control back and do whatever you have to do to get well. Talk to your parents about your feelings. I almost had a nervous breakdown and ended up in the hospital because I didn't talk to my parents about how I was feeling. Once I did, I was able to take control BACK and move on.
I see my pdoc once a month or longer too. That's about a normal schedule, unless you are very unstable.
Hang in there and let us know if we can help!
Love and Hugs,
Keli
Since it sounds like you need to be more assertive--I say go for it and claim some of that group time for your own, just don't make my usual mistake and go the opposite direction too much into aggression.
it can be easier in the group than at home tho.i don't think it's that easy to stand up to out parents.i'm 44 & i can't tell my mother what's on my mind...even if i am right.good luck & keep us posted & there's a pushy loudmouth in every group.