To: firstglimpse
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| Wed, 11-16-2005 - 8:42pm |
Hi! My name is Lori, and I just happened to read one of your posts. I don't visit this board often, but I read your post, and had to reply. I have been married to my DH for 19 years. We met in high school, and we married shortly after high school. I thought I knew him, and there were times in our marriage when I started to suspect he might have a mild case of bipolar disorder. I did some reading on it, and I was convinced he had it for years. He thought he was fine, and wouldn't get help. He did have one major depression, which he "snaped" out of really fast. Of course, he was depressed and then suddenly manic. I had him on every vitamin since his first depression, which he hated, but he took them. He was then okay until two years ago, I found an e-mail on our computer which he had written to another woman! I was shocked beyond belief, and I confronted him and he left that night. He said he loved this OW, and was never really happy with our marriage (news to me). He went to stay with his parents and then became really depressed, as he didn't know what to do. He again became manic and stayed with the OW for a couple of months. I think the OW was attracted to the mania, not really him. He became depressed again, and the OW didn't like that, and I don't think she could fiqure him out. He was over seeing the kids one night, and broke down crying, saying how sorry he was for what he did, etc. He finally wanted us to go for counselling, which we did. It was during the counselling that the cousellor thought that he was perhaps bipolar, and I told her I thought that through out our marriage. She sent him to a Dr. and he got on some meds, and at that point he was still living on his own. We ended up getting back together, almost 2 years ago, and I can't say life has been easy, but we are now happy and doing well. He did have a really tough time getting over the Ow, which did hurt me, and I found that really hard to deal with. He said she was like an addiction! I think she was like a drug to him, perhaps an antidepressant. He still has to talk to her and see her from time to time as they work with the same company (but not actually together), I have even seen her. I'm sorry, I know this is long, but I did want you to know that you are not alone. It is tough, when no one else you know has gone through the same thing. I have had friends where the DH left, but not the bipolar that wasn't diagnosed, etc. My DH is now on three meds, and he has since being on the meds. been depressed once, and had to have one of them increased. My biggest fear is that he will become depressed again, because I know that sometimes the meds. can't even stop that. It is kind of a roller coaster ride at times. I love him though, and he loves me, and I pray that we will now get through anything together.
Hang in there and if you need to talk, just let me know!
Lori
