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| Fri, 12-09-2005 - 12:44pm |
Nami in my county has just started a DDA support group for family/friends of those who are diagnosed with a MI and addiction.
Now at this time H has (or he says) his addictive therapist does not believe he's an A, but only BP b/c he only drinks during hypomania. But only time will prove this point & I think this would be a good idea for me to start attending this group support anyway.
As for the OW, she is GONE!!! She was release from the hospital last night & H used the methods his therapist had gone over with him a few hours before how to respond to her in such a way that she'll understand their relationship is over. She will be hospitalized for 2w in CA, then she'll visit her bro in MT for a week then her mother in UT for another week. Hopefully by keeping her busy she will not attempt to make contact with my H & will be stabalized at the end of the month. H said she seemed much more stable after a few days in the psych ward & with Lithium.
Although, talking to H last night his voice started to sound slightly manic again. Plus it was very hard to get him off of the phone (normally he does not like to talk on the phone). He was crying one moment & upset the next. (Not at me, but having a hard time getting into to see a psychiatrist/doctors and getting on meds himself.) He has enough anti-psychotics to get him through the weekend, but now the psychiatric nurse says she will not treat him until he goes through detox. He told her he is already detoxed & doesn't see the point. She said if he's detoxed they will release him immediately. Well, unfortunately he saw the psych ward with the OW was there & with it being the holidays it was extra chaotic. He's scared to death of the place & does not want to check himself in now.
He is supposed to start working in less than a week. It doesn't appear this is going to happen. Very frustrating indeed.
Today he's going to try to call the doc who originally filled out the Medical Leave forms & see if he can take blood tests to prove he's sober & can return to work (which he just did a drug test last Friday & came back clean). Both his addictive councelor & therapist believe he's ready to go back to work & his therapist told H it would be a very good move for him to move home now too.
I don't know though, if he's starting to get manic again we cannot have him home. I think I'll call him this morning to urge him to get the apt with the doc ASAP. I think going back to work will actually help him. I know normally when he's cycling I find getting him out of the house & into a daily routine really helps to pull him out.
Oh - He was diagnosed with BPII, which is a relief. No wonder it was harder to see this for sure before.
Bonnie

Hi Bonnie, boy you sure do have a lot to deal with, but the support you have there sounds great. My H is bipolar 2 as well, which is better than one, but still hard to deal with sometimes. It's great that the OW is gone, and hopefully it will stay that way. I think your H needs to get on the proper meds. and maybe he can get stable and go back to work. Even on the meds. my DH has been mildly manic and very depressed (he has had two or three adjustments). I did think that once he got on meds. everything would be great, and he would always be stable, but unfortunately it doesn't always work that way. He is doing much better than he was without meds., but sometimes it seems like I'm just waiting for him to get depressed again, which is partly something I have to learn to deal with.
Anyway, sorry for the rambling. I hope you and your kids are doing okay. Have a good weekend!
Take care,
Lori