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| Mon, 12-12-2005 - 2:54pm |
H called Friday night and asked if he could come over as he was tired of being alone & feared he'd drink in his depression - here he knows he would not drink here. Well, he hasn't left & started to return his items on Saturday.
How do I feel about this? GOOD !!!!
I cannot believe how much improvement I've seen on his mental state from Friday to today. He is still running into wall after wall trying to get a psychiatrist to prescribe him meds. The psychiatric nurse who gave him the anti-psychotics called him on Friday (he was supposed to have an apt today) to let him know she will not treat him until he goes through detox. Which confused him as he's sober and had already taken a drug test to prove it. But his blood pressure is really high & that concerns her.
He is supposed to start work on Thursday but having troubles to find anybody to sign his certification to either allow him back to work or extend his FMLA. The doc who originally signed the FMLA has not seen him since so cannot make a statement about his rehabilitation. He took it to his addictive councelor & she said she is not a doctor and could not fill it out. He took it to his therapist & his therapist said it really needed to be filled out by the addictive center. He called the addictive center today to see how he can be admitted. He was told if he's not drunk than our insurance will not cover the detox & they are trying to get ahold of his councelor, who happens to be off today. And the p-nurse will not see him now.
This is stressing him out incredibly. Especially since he'll be out of anti-psychotics either tonight or perhaps it was last night. So he needs to see someone today to prove to his p-nurse he's detoxed so she'll give him meds.
Q. Have any of you had a hard time getting in to see a pdoc? Do you know of a way to get one to see you quickly? H even told them he was having strong suicidal thoughts & he still has not been able to see one, but that is how he got to see the p-nurse instead of waiting on her 2-month waiting list.
He is trying very hard to fit himself back into this household & I'm impressed he's doing so well here while in such a depression.
Bonnie

Hi Bonnie, I posted a note to you below, it's great to hear you are doing alright. I hope you H can get the help he needs.
We actually live in Canada, and we were seeing a counsellor, who upon seeing my suicidal DH, got him to a family Dr. that day, and he is the one who started my DH on meds. Eventually the family Dr. thought he needed help with DH, so sent him to a pdoc, but that was quite awhile after the family Dr. first started him on meds. I don't know how it works in the U.S., but I'm sure it's different. We often have long waiting lists to get into see a specialist, but the plus side is that we don't pay, it is all covered by the Gov't. Also, nurses here can't prescribe any drugs at all, ever.
I really hope that turns are turning around for you and your H and that he can get the help he needs.
Take care, hang in there,
Lori
I think some family docs might prescribe, ours does not. We already tried a month ago. I've never heard of a nurse being able to prescribe either - must be something just a psychiatric nurse can do?? I'm really quite confused about it. When she called and talked to me she told me she would get him in to see the psychiatrist within a couple of days, I don't know what happened with that.
We have a message for her to call me as we cannot seem to get anybody to help. The addictive center called and said they will not admit him. He asked if he should go to the ER then (our hospital has a psych ward) and they didn't think they would admit him either as he's doing well on the anti-psychotics. But, he's trying anyway. Poor guy, he was at the psych ward last week with the OW and it scared him & he really, really does not want to go. But he has no idea where else to turn.
He wants to make his life right and he's tired of waiting. He feels so bad for what he's done. He says he doesn't understand it at all. He says he was not unhappy in our marriage and cannot figure out why this OW made such an impression on him. He doesn't remember most of Sep (the emotional affair) or how he even ended up in California (when it became physical).
He even said, 'this is so much worse for you because you can remember it all where I can't.' He said he wanted to come home a month ago but knew he couldn't until he was more stable. At least he has the anti-psychotic so he can work a lot faster & be more determined than what he has been for the past several weeks.
I'm really proud of him, I know how scared he is of being locked up (as he was locked uo nearly 8 yrs ago).
Bonnie
"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."
~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng
Bonnie,
I'm a bit concerned that DH's moods still seem quite unstable and he is going to be out of a/p's...his only option at this point may be going inpatient. He'll have to go to the ER and tell them he is suicidal and very depressed. They'll admit him, get him on meds, and set him up with a pdoc.
I know he's scared, but there really is no other choice if he can't into a pdoc. After being ON anti psychotics and running out of them, well, that's just not good, especially when he is depressed like this.
This is a VERY crucial time, and I just want you to be really careful. I know you are.
Best of luck,
Keli