Rebekah!!!
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| Tue, 12-13-2005 - 8:20am |
Honey!!! I love you! I just wanted to tell you that. Racism, in any form, SUCKS! Its pure and plain ignorance and stupidity and I cannot and do not abide it at all period in my life. I've had to suffer through it many times myself. I am white. My dh is black. So obviously my ds is both. Back when he was born, in 91, things were much different than they are 15 years later even. I had people tell me to have an abortion because if I died, nobody would ever want to raise my son because he wasn't any one race...he was different. This came from my own grandmother. My mother's bio mother. Who didn't raise her...what's interesting is that her husband, when he found out what she'd said, LOST IT on her...she's since apologized and they love my son. But its only an example. I worked with mostly white males who think they are the most intelligent life forms on earth, (ha!) and I got many whispers...many looks.
Now, in 2005, my ds is a teenager in highschool and mixed race kids are EVERYWHERE here in this part of the state...not sure about down there where you live, but I'm sure there are.
My parents live in a very small part of Georgia...very rural, cotton picking country. When I say its like a different time, it IS. They are very small minded and still think of black people as they did in the slave days. You can SEE IT. They don't see it, mind you. There are rebel flags EVERY WHERE you turn...
Anyway, I just wanted you to know that you aren't alone...and that I love you and you are special, no matter what the rednecks think!!! :)
We're gonna come down and kick that bus driver's YOU KNOW WHAT for you too!
As for dd and the SA...god, how I know about that too...its awful and she's so young...does the school not offer any kind of therapy? Probably not, not in FL. Just support her as much as you can, while setting boundaries for her too. Her boundaries were destroyed and she knows nothing of them.
We're here for you, okay?
Love and Hugs,
Keli

Keli, Thank you soooo much for all that. It means so much to me. As for your grandma, thats some bullcorn. My mom told me when I was pregnant with DD that handicapped people should be sterilized so they dont have kids that other people will have to raise. Thats only one of the sweet remarks my mother has made through the years about my disability and how much she loves me. Ugh. I am so sorry your family was like that. My personal opinion, if anything ever happened to you, I would take care of your DS. Mixed kids are awesome :D I dated a black guy for about six months and my whole family almost disowned me over it. We have so much in common its amazing.
As far as DD and therapy, they have free therapy but it takes at least a month to get in for an intake appt, and by then DH will have a full time gig somewhere, and we might have Medicaid before then. I am going to call her tdoc and ask if she can take her under my Medicare or Medicaid HMO and bill me(she does both children and adults). Aaaaaaaand, I got DS progress report today, and he is usually perfect except he talks some in class, and it was almost WORSE than DD. He is getting up out of his seat, talking in class, not doing his classwork, has a bad atttitude with his teacher and interrupts when other people are talking in class. I was like WTF? not him too.
I have a final tomorrow that I havent even begun to study for, yay. I havent taken my meds regularly at all lately, I just keep forgetting about them. So I am all over the place, it seems like all the crap is hitting the fan for everyone this time of year. Im sorry all of you are having such a hard time too. We will all be ok though, we are survivors!
Rebekah