A/D question
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| Sun, 12-18-2005 - 12:49pm |
Due to H reaction to Zoloft he is very scared to take A/D any longer. But ... isn't that an important part of treatment as long as there is an anti-psychotic?
He's getting really depressed, which seems normal after a 3-6 month mixed mania. He can barely be around the kids and often things about going back to his apartment. I understand his anxieties as when it became too much for me I too hated to be around the kids and would literally run away from them. I yelled at them - even the baby. I couldn't stand for them to touch me (except nursing as it forced me to relax). Two days of it being that bad I called my GP immediately and went onto Zoloft myself. Now I, again, have a high tolerance for tantrums and crying.
When I talk to H about a/d he freaks out saying he'll never go on a/d again.
Here is the problem. The earliest he can get in to see a pdoc is in Feb. He is currently working with a p-nurse who will continue to prescribe the Seroquel at the dosage the ER pdoc prescribed H. But she seems fearful to prescribe him any a/d or stabalizers until he sees a pdoc.
He has an apt with the p-nurse tomorrow & his IC on Tuesday. I have suggested he brings up his 'snappy' behavior to both of them, hopefully one of them will help him out.
Bonnie

Hi Bonnie,
I was wondering how you were doing. I really wish your DH would reconsider on the AD, as I really don't think my DH would be alive right now without it. My DH is on Effexor, and it has helped him so much. Just the other day, he said looking back he can't believe how sick he must have been, and now he feels great. He even had it upped once, and he is on a high dose, but if he wasn't he wouldn't feel great today. There are so many meds. out there to try, it's just a matter of finding the right one. My DH also couldn't stand being around the kids when he was depressed, but now he has more patience with them.
I hope his appointments go well, and that someone can convince him to try a different AD. Please take care of yourself, and let us know how you are doing.
Lori
bonnie - i don't know if it will help, but i can tell you and dh if he'll listen, that i couldn't take zoloft either. that was one of the 'tried and failed' meds i've been on in the past several years......the first one in fact. then i tried lexapro and got terrible migraine headaches from that. finally the docs put me on wellbutrin which i'm still on. while i don't feel like it is doing any good, tdoc seems to think it has just enough of a hold on me to keep me from doing anything that i might not be able to undo.
i am getting ready to see a new pdoc in january to see if we can finally get my meds worked out. it's been a long haul and i know many here have had an even longer haul, but your dh has to know that it is worth the fight and that he's got to go with what the pnurse says for right now. the pdoc will be here before you know it and he really needs to stick with the treatment.
i know the depression that follows the mixed manias.......only too well. and it is important that he not give up. i'm still here because people wouldn't let me give up. and i have to be reminded every day because my depression is so out of hand right now.
i hope this has helped. i know what you are going through as a result of what your dh is going through and it sucks. i wish i had it in me to make all of us feel better here. keep us posted.
traci
Hi Bonnie,
I'm in a complete depression right now myself...horrible! Anyway, as for your dh...he really MUST take an a/d. I know he is scared to...but being depressed for BPs isn't any fun, and can be very dangerous...we tend to go REALLY low...you know, those extremes everyone is always talking about???
My pdoc HATES me taking a/ds. I've been on and off them SO many times...this time, its been 3 weeks off Prozac and I am a complete basket case. VERY VERY low. Lower than ever...or so I think...but that's not true...its always this low...it just doesn't feel like it, when you get so low you don't want to live...so low you just want to hide out somewhere, and not talk to anyone...not be around anyone...
I'm going BACK on my Prozac ASAP. Lamictal alone isn't doing it...
Many times...Seroquel made me MORE depressed. Esp. not on a stabilizer and a/d too!
Urge dh to go back on an a/d. He really needs one.
Best of luck
Keli
I'll work on H contacting p-nurse & asking for a/d. Especially if the Seroquel can make the depression worse.
Lori - the best times in my marriage was while H took Depakote with Wellbutrin, he's been on the depressed side since he stopped taking the Wellbutrin about 3 yrs ago. So I'll try to get him to let his prescriber know he's already had success with the Wellbutrin. Plus, he's smoking & I've read smoking can reduce the effectiveness of BP meds. He nearly quit when he started the Wellbutrin before.
As of yet, the depression is not that bad. He did go through a bad episode before getting on the Seroquel, so bad I didn't know if he'd survive one weekend. Right now he's more irritable, snappy, wants to spend his time alone, kids drive him crazy, etc. He's still able to keep appointments, run errands & such.
Perhaps Keli, this is just him adjusting to all the sh!t he's put our family through. He's still reading/listening to her emails/VM, but I have not seen or have had a gut feeling that he's replying to any of it. I just wish he'd stop reading/listening as it keeps him connected to her.
His work contacted him today, they found him a provider for the 2nd opinion. They're calling the provider today to try to set up an appointment ASAP. THEREFORE... I'll try to work on H in regards to a/d before he sees whoever it is his work is setting him up with. Hopefully he'll start working soon as I'm having a hard time working so many hours to try to keep up with the bills. (Work from home while tending to a 3yo, 1yo & a depressed H.)
Bonnie
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