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i'm in a dilemma (& I don't need any
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Fri, 12-23-2005 - 10:38am
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i just had a talk with my mother & she is accepting of my husband's hidden & creative cruelty to me...but we also talked about sout something that my tdoc hinted at last session.
my gp & pdoc are into a health biz that they want to go real big with..it caused a baad falling out between my gp & his partner...it's alllll about money.
anyway,both my mother & my tdoc(EVEN THO IT MEANS AGREEING W/ H)think what my pdoc is charging me to come weeking is outrageous.my mom thinks he must have an ego problem.it's true that the money causes me anxiety(he costs 375 per visit after the first 500$ visit...if his rates go up...so do yours
BUT i'm also anxious about finding & starting with a new dr.tdoc said she might have one for only 200 but i am on so much meds i'll bet i'm keeping rite aide going.
i'm so confused.what if there is ni dr.do i go broke trying to get well or should ijustthrow all this cr8p out the window?
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Fri, 12-23-2005 - 11:30am

Suzi


There has to be some kind of assistance for you...this is ridiculous and I"m sorry, but that is outrageous...especially if they all know your financial situation.


It should be about getting YOU well...not how much money they can all make doing it.


do they at least give you samples?

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Fri, 12-23-2005 - 12:35pm

Oh my God Suzi! I am so sorry for you, my advice would be find another pdoc. My pdoc costs $69 per session for meds management and $80 for an hour therapy session and I get tons of samples. So you are being taken advantage of horribly. DD's tdoc charges $60 for an hour of therapy, so $375 is insane, and to charge more than that is extortion. Find a new pdoc hon

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Fri, 12-23-2005 - 12:55pm

suzi - donna is right. i live in northern virginia which is a very expensive place to live and my current pdoc is only 100/visit. 375???????? that's outrageous!


most states have assistance programs. i don't know where you live but maybe your tdoc can get to work on that for you.


i wish there was something i could do or say to help, but i'm a bit short in the advice department these days. hang in there i hope it gets better for you real soon.


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Fri, 12-23-2005 - 3:05pm
yes so....he takes emails from me...after i called me tdoc & spoke to her machine,i wrote him a rather manic email....cause really..the majority(him & his office being the minority)feels exactly the way you do.....that his price was outrageous & beyond what i could maintain weekly,bi weekly or even monthy..& wasn't it normal that i was having anxiety trying to figure out where i was going to get the money?& since i was planning on leaving my husband wasn't it important to save the money i had?
so i couldn't think of a way to continue this doc/patient thing in the long run & i wasn't canceling my next appt b/c i realized i couldn't just cold turkey all these sedatives.
whadaya think?
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Fri, 12-23-2005 - 3:17pm

Suzi,
My advice would be to get him to give you a months worth of meds, and then just make an appt with another doc and get them to get your records from him when they need to, and just dont go back, or just make an appt with another doc before you see him again, and if they will give you scrips then just dont go back to him and cancel your appt, that way you dont have to stop your meds cold turkey and you dont have to face him to tell him you arent coming back. Remember he is a doctor and his job is to help you get well, you dont owe him anything of an explanation or even so much as a goodbye,even though you might feel close to him because of the things you discuss,you cant let that stand in your way of making a decision about this. If it was your regular gp, would you make an appt to tell them you werent coming back? no, you would just go somewhere else, just because he is treating your psychological sickness doesnt mean he deserves a reason for your not being there.

Good luck hon and I will be praying that it works out for you :)

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Fri, 12-23-2005 - 3:44pm
yeah but there aint no way this doc's gonna give me a months worth of meds UNLESS i play the i am a- ok pretend game...besides,i get kind of a kick out of calling him an an a** b/c as my mother AND my tdoc said he must have a ego the size of the atlantic charging so much.
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Fri, 12-23-2005 - 4:00pm

then just go find another doc, and let them deal with getting your records from him, bring the bottles of meds you are on with you and just dont go back to him. Is getting a kick out of calling him an a** worth $400 a week?

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Fri, 12-23-2005 - 4:39pm
do you know how hard it is to find a decent doc?just ask first glimpse.
this is my dilema.these docs are the first good ones since i am 16.
let me give you a rundown
the doc who overdosed me on effexor & talked constantly about my breastshe also allowed a patient to tell me off in his waiting room.he closed his door
the doc who slept thru my sessions
the doc who said she couldnt help me cause i was jusat too sick
the doc(an old chinese man) who said my only problem was that i was a very very bad person who didn't respect my husband & prescribed enough depakote & effexor to screw up my blood pressure(oh & he said pms was something women made up along with anorexia...love him?)he said i didn't need support from anyone cause i was a mother now.
you can't make this stuff up.
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Fri, 12-23-2005 - 6:08pm

well...you can either keep looking for a new doc, by just going to different ones until you find one you click with, or just put up with his ridiculous prices. He charges you that much money because he knows you will pay it, he probably charges his other patients a normal fee, would be my guess. Tell him you are going on vacation for a few weeks, and use that time to find another doctor, if you go on vacation he wont leave you without meds for that time. Call your local mental health center that is state run and ask for referrals, go through your yellow pages and call for consultation appts to get to know the docs, they may not even charge or charge a reduced fee for something like that. THere are alot of options, you just have to make some definite decisions and stick to them.

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Fri, 12-23-2005 - 6:17pm
actually he charges us all this insane fee...he takes medicaide or medicare whichever...that is all.the rest of us are rich or go hungry..i just needed someone else to to me i was paying a stupid stupid amount of money before i did anything about it!