cried all evening :(
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| Fri, 12-30-2005 - 7:12am |
First there is the appt at my OB's office. First thing she says is "I didn't know you were bi-polar. Does your pdoc know you are pregnant? How long have you been taking all this medicine?" She then tells me the peritinologist(sp?) wants to do early ultrasounds to check for brain damage caused by the meds. She told me that it's not like they could ask me to stop taking the medicine or anything but they want to keep a close eye on the baby. I held it together well in the docs office-I don't like to cry in front of strangers but as soon as my DH and I got in the car we started snipping at each other. He kept telling me that I ENJOY worrying and if I didn't worry about this I would find something else to freak out about. This turned into a full blown screeching fight when we got home in front of my mom, niece, and sister. We've NEVER blown up at each other like that. I then spent the evening crying. I stopped my Lamictal and am weaning myself off the Serequel and Ambiem. I don't know if it's too late or not for the baby but now I can worry and fret about this for the next six months or so-which is silly I know-worrying is NOT going to change anything. But I got pregnant un-expectantly before I could get off all these drugs. I was hoping to get pregnant early next year. I just wish I could relax. My DH certainly isn't concerned!
Jodie

Please try to look at the good side, you are still pregnant. I have been really worried about that. I am sure your baby is fine. Talk to your pdoc about changing meds before just stopping them. That might be bad for the baby too.
Please just try to relax. I know it is easier said then done. I was a basket case with my last child. I did try an herbal supplement called "rescue remedy" when I got real bad and it helped take the edge off. It is made from flower oils. And it is cheap, like $7 per bottle.
Hugs.
Missy
I'm so sorry....missy is right tho..you are still pregnant so keep that in mind and its a good thing !!
God could not be everywhere, so
Jodie,
I'm sorry...remember we are with you. I know NOT WORRYING is the hardest thing in the world to do, but you have to release some of the stress you are under, that can be just as bad too.
Write here as much as you need to to make it through.
Love you
((((((((Jodie)))))))))) although I've never been on bp meds while pregnant, I was on an anti-seizure med (Dilantin) for all 3 of my pregancies and my OB had fits every single visit for all 3 because I was still on the stuff and it could have caused all sorts of problems with the baby. I couldn't get the neurologist to take me off the stuff, although I knew I didn't need it anymore but not wanting to risk having a seizure while pregnant I stayed on them. Stupid neuro.
But, at any rate, Donna and Missy are right. You are still pregnant and you have to focus on that. My kids all turned out fine. Easier said than done, but try not to worry. You don't need the added stress. Just relax as best you can and tell dh to go somewhere if he can't be supportive. He's never been pregnant so he's clueless.
Hang in there sweetie! We're here for you.
Love & Hugs,
Traci
((((((hugs)))))))
I don't know what else to say. Hang in there. I do agree that cutting the meds yourself is probably not the wisest course right now.
It's not a good example, but a friend of mine found out late that she was pg. She was almost 6 months along, and had been smoking all the way through. She went to her OB in a panic, and was told "That baby is as addicted to nicotine as you are. If you give up now, you will cause withdrawals and undue stress on both of you, which will be more harmful than nicotine. Keep smoking".
The "baby" is now 16 and a straight-A student with designs on Harvard.
-Paula
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First of all I don't think I've ever met a pg woman who didn't worry. It is strange b/c when they are in your belly you worry all the time b/c you cannot see them and do not know what to expect, when they are out of the womb you worry about them (especially at night) b/c you cannot feel every move giving you constant reasurrances s/he is alright.
It's natural & a man will never understand the fears to the depths we do as the mother. There will be many times in the future when you think H is too protective & fearful for your child.
I agree with the others, do not stop meds w/o being directed by your doc.
There is a website I frequented a lot while pg & according to it the Ambien is a Class B drug. This is the same class Tylenol is in. As far as I know there are not actually any class A drugs.
The Lamictal & Seroquel are Class C, which really means there are not any known effects in pg. This is b/c it has not been studied on humans. So it is recommended not to take (unless need outweighs the risk) just because they are unknown.
Check out the site:
http://www.safefetus.com/Search.asp
It's great news you went to the the OBs office & see the pg is still progressing. OBs are very careful (overly-careful) with their patients. Hang in there.
Oh, to help relax, somebody bought me some lavendar batherapy and it worked wonders. My last pg was very stressful which caused me to contract a lot. 15 minutes bath with this stuff and I felt a world better & contractions would stop. It's cheap & can be found at any local drugstore.
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/B00016X762/sr=1-5/qid=1135980984/ref=sr_1_5/002-5050815-3517627?%5Fencoding=UTF8&n=3760931&s=hpc&v=glance
Bonnie
"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."
~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng