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| Sat, 12-31-2005 - 11:15am |
Well, I still havent started, but I took a test yesterday and it was negative. How in the heck can you go 7 weeks without a period? I dont get it. Anyways, thats just the tip of the iceberg. DH is depressed because of being out of work. He sleeps till noon everyday and plays a computer game all night long. We got into a HUGE fight yesterday. He was screaming and throwing htings and just really really mad, I had never seen him that mad before. It was pretty scary. We have no money at all, I spent our last $10 on a test to see if I was pregnant. We are overdrawn like $300 in the bank and yadda yadda yadda, you all know what its like not to have money. I feel like everyday we get farther and farther apart in our relationship, but I know its just because of this stuff, when things are good, he acts completely different and we get along fine. I know it will get better, but it sucks living in it right now.
Rebekah


((((((((Rebekah))))))))) Don't know what else to say but to offer you tons of hugs. My ex and I used to go round like that, but there was a lot more than money involved with our crap. He will sort through his "stuff," lick his wounds, and then go out and get a job. It's a process. And, when there's a family involved, it's a very hard process, but it does end.
I'm glad you got the test and that it was negative. I have an idea that all the stress you've been under the past several weeks is playing a role in the absence of a/f. I know the year my father passed away for several months my system was really haywire. I'd skip months entirely, then I'd have one every 14 days, and one month it lasted the entire month. I thought, given my age, that it may have been periomenopause, but the doc swore I was nuts. Well, I am but that's beside the poitnt. Then, little by little, my system got back to normal. But it stemmed from the stress of the loss of my father. Stress is not kind to our bodies.
I wish I had more to offer but I am thinking of you and sending positive thoughts your way for a happy, healthy new year for you and your family:)
Much Hugs,
Traci
(((((Rebekah)))))
I am glad there was no little "surprise" for you, but sorry you are going through all this stuff right now. I hope the New year brings some new hope, and things start to look up for you guys.
-Paula
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Simply taking a test can often allow a/f to return. I hear it all the time.
Lots of things can delay, stop a/f. Diet, exercise, stress are the biggest factors I know of. I would guess with your current situation all 3 of these things have been effected lately.
I'm in the same situation with my H, work & depression. He is on medical leave due to an anti-depressant triggered mixed-manic episode that lasted for 6 months. Now he's having trouble getting in to see a psych & his work is not letting him back yet. He was put on leave on Oct 15th, so we cannot start to collect disability until Jan 15th. (When I say same situation; I mean in bed all morning, playing his game all afternoon/night.)
I try to stay out of his way right now. I do pop in to give him hugs and bring him things (like a cup of coffee) to let him know I'm still here. When he's in better mood I try to spend more time with him then. Fighting right now is not going to help anything (especially in our situation H had a 3 month emotional affair & 1 month physical when he reached psychosis).
Try not to let his mood effect you as much as possible and if it does, try not to let him see it. I believe if you act positive and happy around him it helps him have some better moments & not delve too deeply.
GL
Bonnie
"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."
~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng
Thanks for all the support ladies :) Bonnie those are some pretty good words of wisdom. I will try that and see what happens. I hope you all are having a great New Year and that it is better than last year for everyone :)
Rebekah
Oh honey, do I EVER know how you feel. My dh and I are getting along, but not getting along. It weird. Things are changing, or so I think???? I'm kind of thinking confused right now...
Anyway, I just wanted to say that I love you and to hang in there. I'm here for you always. My email is kelir123@excite.com if you need to talk.
Keli