:-( ... co-workers using BP as scapegoat

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:-( ... co-workers using BP as scapegoat
Thu, 01-26-2006 - 3:39pm

H started work again 2w ago & it has not gone well.

1. VP of his dept has totally cut H off. Even though the VP relied heavily on H from June- Sep (when the mania started). VP blocked H from IM & will not respond to his work-related emails. H has to find somebody else to email him with his questions for a HIGH-PROFILE project.

2. Two co-workers claimed they were covering for H when in actualality H is always covering for them. He's barely back a day & they want H to start covering for them again. (Both of these co-workers H thought of as friends - actually one he thought of her as an older sister.)

3. Nobody knows what H knows. So 2w after he went onto FMLA all the tickets get stuck on hold awaiting H return. So now he has nearly 3 mos worth of tickets to get through ASAP.

4. They give H 2 big projects the 2nd day back to work (ontop of the 3 mos of catch-up). Then everyone lets him know they need him to complete ASAP as they have no idea if he'll be around long.

5. One co-worker said to H, 'The next time you "decide" to go crazy, let me know so I can kick in in the a55 before-hand.'

6. One of the 2 projects actually belongs to somebody else, but it is above knowledge & he is highly stressed over it & H is supposed to train him on this. The other project is H and is the High-Profile project. The co-worker gets upset if he walks into H office & sees him working on his own project so he called their boss to complain about H. (National company, employees spread all over the place.) This particular co-worker has been HIV+ for 10 yrs now. Due to this the company allows him tons of time off to keep his stress level down, little job duties, no reprimend on mistakes & do not dare to fire him. But H with a MI, well, that's a different story now isn't it!

**ALL THIS & H IS ONLY ON Seroquel!! He is not stable yet. In fact up all night Sunday with H due to him being suicidal. If not for the a/p I think H would still be in this mania full-force.

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UPDATE ON ME
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I'm actually doing pretty good. My self-esteem is still rising & learning about this illness is actually bringing my confidence back. As I no longer internalize H's words/acts. I started the 12w F2F class with NAMI and find everything so helpful.

We went to 1 MC session. H did not respond well. He asked if we could wait 3w before going back - but I've decided we need to wait until he is on stablizers & A/D for 4-6w before we start. So mid-March early April.

Bonnie




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